ML/KIWIJ....I'm not sure if you guys remember my threads. My WW is on the fence about moving out. I think it's going to happen next week. I've got my Plan B letter together, still working on the separation agreement. Yesterday was a good day (considering). Something that has me concerned is that WW said she's concerned that if she doesn't move out, then she's afraid in the future she may do it again. I know that if/when she comes back there will be an emotional roller coaster that has not been experienced yet. My question/concern is that I've been doing what I consider an exceptional Plan A. I can see the affects of this - daily. She still sees OM and I believe I want her to move out and see what the grass is really like on the other side (WW/42, OM/24 - not a he** of alot in common other than work and dangling body parts). I want to wait a week or two before I go into Plan B. Although it pains me, I want her to experience the feelings FWW's have described here at MB. I want some of those feelings as well as the Plan B to be the reason the A withers away and she comes home. I want WW to see what she is potentially giving up (our family). Am I missing something? Are my emotions clouding my judgment? Should I go dark immediately or give it a week or two and let the ugliness of this A get to them. BTW, I called OM's mother again tonight to ensure she wasn't being lied to again (first lie is I was a marriage counselor and was okay with the A). OM's mother and her husband are both survivors of A's. She has alot of the same insight as I find here and she is all about ending this. I'm cautious because blood is thicker than water, but to listen to this woman and here that she knows my pain really helps. She is the only one I've exposed to other than two of our family friends (more mine than WW's). Prompts another question.....When I go into Plan B, should I expose to everyone including WW/OM work? I want to reserve that for the last resort (as learned here).

I ask for any and all input. I find solace here and when I combine responses, I've found they work exceptionally well.....

Thanks and God Bless.