Well my H came over on Mon to tell me that he loves me and the boys and wants to work all of this out. I am excited and apprehensive at the same time. He told me he doesn't know what he was doing and needed to pull his head out of his behind. I agreed. Said this was not about AW. I believe him. Said he did not feel connected to me and the boys. I understand how he got there. We are doing a lot of talking and reconnecting.

All of the info that I received on this board, helped me a lot. I always told him that I loved him when I saw him. He was of the mind set that because he just left that I could never forgive him and take him back. Told him I never gave up on him.

Thanks so much to you all.

me 39
H 44
Together 10 years
Married 8
Kids 15 & 17
Not in love speech 7/12/04
Moved out 7/12/04
D speech 8/04/04
Out of the fog 8/16/04
Recovery & future: Looks good

Good luck to you! I hope my story ends that way one day. I pray and hope for my H to come back!

TreeReich:

Don't give up. I wanted to give up but I couldn't because I loved my H so very much. I also knew that he loved me only he was a little confused at the time. He wouldn't let me in his heart or mind for about 4 weeks. I had a hard time dealing with that because we always talked. He finally let me in and listened to what I had to say but I had to wait until he was ready.

I found a lot of comfort in these boards and in God. I prayed for God to carry me and not walk beside me. I know that He did this because without Him I would have fallen apart.

Keep your focus and when your H is ready to talk pray for God to give you the words and your H to open up his heart.