I will be working on plan b letter this weekend.......I was wondering when I should give it to her........Before or after the hearing.......on tuesday........I and meagan and sisters family are going to hershey park tommorrow........and my younger son and girlfriend....My mom said WW looks real bad..hair is dyed blonde at the bottom and orange up top.......she said WW looks real bad................and real skinny...........

Frank, I am thinking it might be better to do it after the hearing. What are your thoughts on the timing?

Is your attorney going to fight for you to get 100% visitation of Meagan? Does he seem concerned AT ALL that she be around WW's loser boyfriend?>

Do you want some sample Plan B letters? Will you post it when you are done so we can give you some feedback?


http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/ultimatebb.php?ubb=get_topic;f=37;t=019428

scroll down to thefurnitureman's post:

http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/ultimatebb.php?ubb=get_topic;f=37;t=029480

ML here go's.........My plan b letter...............

My Dear Dianne,

I appologize to you for my past in creating an environment that helped make your affair with Timmy possible.I was never there when you needed my support with the family and kids and the house.I did some stupid things that I regret,without understanding my responsibilitiy to meet your most important emotional needs. I was not there for you when you needed me the most, and we are now suffering from my mistakes. I am willing to avoid the mistakes I've made in the past and create a new life for both of us that will meet your needs.I am truly believe that it is possible with what I have learned in the past 9 months.I now see the things that I was lacking in , and the disrepect I had for you. I will set you on a pedistal if I had another chance.But I can not do that until you end your relationship with Timmy once and for all. Until then,I will ask that you do not contact me.I will also not be able to help you financially.

My family mom, Rick, Michael have agreed to help make arrangements for us to exchange Meagan for when ever you like. But I will not be able to communicate about Meagan directly to you. If you have any questions or emergencys or I do I will do it through Mike, Meagan or Mom. I ask you to respect my decision to seperate from you this way. You must know about the suffering I and Meagan have endored because of you relationship with Timmy, and I simply cannot be with you any longer knowing that you are with him. I still love you very much but I cannot see you under these conditions.

As soon as you are to willing to permanently separate from Timmy and are willing to follow a no contact letter to ensure total separation. I will be willing to discuss our future together. I want us to be able to rebuild our marriage some day and remarry at a church. If you want..I want us to be able to meet each others emotional needs and avoid doing anything to hurt each other. We need to build a new life style in which every thing we do makes us both happy. Then there will never again be a reason for us to separate. I want to be your best friend , someone who is always there for you when you need me, and I want you as my best friend.I loved you when we married and I continue to love you right up to this day. I just cannot be with you or help you as long as you are seeing Timmy.

With all my love, Frank

P.S.
Timmy, I love Dianne with all my heart and I am willing to do whatever it takes to make her happy. I will wait for her to give me that chance...........

<small>[ October 06, 2004, 09:44 AM: Message edited by: frankd ]</small>

You know, Frank, that is one damn good Plan B letter. It says everything it needs to say and you didn't write a novel! The only thing I might change would be this sentence:

"Until then,I will avoid seeing you or talking to you,as I have been.I will also not be able to help you financially except what is required by law for Meagan."

Can you replace with: "Until then,I would ask that you do not contact me. I will also not be able to help you financially."

See, you are telling her in this letter not to contact you at all so that point needs to be VERY CLEAR.

I would also not put anything about paying her for Meagan, because hopefully you won't be paying her a cent and you don't want her to think it would be right to pay her anything when she shouldn't have Meagan at all.

Your letter is short, sweet and to the point. That is one of the best ones I have read here.

How can you get this letter to her without OM intercepting it?

Send it regesterd mail and sed one with meagan....I will wait until after the hearing............ next week.....Plus I could give it to her at 7-11.........

hi bump

bump for ml

Thanks Frank, did you make that correction I suggested?

bump

How's it going Frank?

sorry. bump

You keep just bumping it (for some reason?).

What are you looking for Frank?

i am giving it to her tommorrow.....should i chane it at all.

Did you see Melody's response? She thinks you should change that one sentence, and I agree.
Have you changed it?

That is a very good Plan B letter!

Did you make any changes as suggested by Melody?

Hi Frank

Glad to see you are moving to Plan B. There are a bunch of us doing this right now. It will feel so much better to get the heck away from this chaos!

I like the letter a lot. Very much like the one in SAA. Mine was almost identical. My friends that read it all cried and said it was beautiful! LOL! I'm beat, so I don't see it. The important thing was WH definitely understood my feelings. Now, he isn't quite sticking to the request for NC with me very well. I'll bet your W will do the same thing since she obviosly loves your phone trysts behind OM's back. The peace you will have in Plan B is precious, I feel 100% stronger in just a week of "rest".

Removing yourself from this cr*p will allow you to sit back and really focus on yourself.

I maid the change....