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<small>[ September 25, 2004, 11:19 AM: Message edited by: pemberley ]</small>
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Should I try to overcome this repulsion and initiate affection/SF anyway?
If you are “repulsed” you should not have sex at all.
If you are simply hurt by what happened and sex is not necessarily the top of your list but it is not on the bottom of your list either, then go ahead with it.
If he wants you to initiate it, then you should initiate it (assuming you want to as above).
Should I force the issue of the changes that I feel need to be made in H's lifestyle/behaviors
Plan A is about ending the affair, not getting him to meet your needs. This will come later.
He has asked me if that's okay.
If he asked you opinion, then it’s okay to give it to him. Try to use the POJA when discussing it.
I just don't like the thought of him being there to "relax and blow off steam" (which probably means getting drunk) without me there.
This would be an excellent time to use the POJA. Tell him you would like to go out & relax a bit too and go with him.
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I am interested in what others have to say about this situation.
My WW admits to the EA in the past weeks and has since made a commitment to the marraiage only to fall back to EA. She has now suggested a seperation. kids are involved.
I also had a near heart attack this past weekend. (this actually happened). I came hmoe from the hosp on Tues and she didnt even nor has even asked how im doing since i came home. She did have the balls to say that she wants a separation.
im interested in hearing what others have to say about what this thread.
JAH
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<small>[ September 25, 2004, 11:22 AM: Message edited by: pemberley ]</small>
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