1) Our marriage was NOT crap when you chose to have the affair. It conveniently became crap to you after you chose to have sex with this groooming reptile.
2) I am about the only ally you have in this world right now, you treat me with deliberate contempt at your peril. GOD ALONE KNOWS why I still love you after all the scorn, pain and deliberate, calculated hurt, but DO NOT assume it will be there for ever. I have become strong and I CAN see a life for myself without your foggy [censored] some day if needed, so FOG THIS !.
3) The OM reptile is a serial womaizer with three divorces and a series of affairs. Ross Geller in friends is a FUNNY CARTOON with 3 divorces yet you say you know the reason why he was the victim in every one. HORSESHEET ! Wake up and smell what you shovellin' girl !
4) Our kids think you have gone crazy. I am making excuses to them right now, but its true - you are crazy. Led from below the waist right now. If only you knew how close I am to saying 'sayanora, fog lady and getting on with my life without having to DEBASE myself while U in fog, you would drop to your knees and thank God for me. Remember God, that immortal guy who has supported mankind since we began ?
5) Yes the OM was crap in bed as you admitted, it was only the excitement and 'naughtiness' that made it better than we had. You better suck up BIG STYLE if you ever want me to physically love you again, you betrayer. I already know I am the better man.
6) You are a liar. Everything you say is a lie. Because of this you think that everyone else is lying too. They are not. Only you and OM are lying in your world. You are liars. There are stars in the 'book of liars' against your names.
7) You think you are choosing between a perfect OM and boring old me ? Let me tell you I am choosing between lying, cheating, soiled, hurtful you and a new start in the life of myself and my kids ! How'd you like THEM apples ?

Even when U out the fog, I may not want U back,
you spiteful ,cheatin' woman !

8) I know my soul is OK with God right now. Have you recognised that your 'soul mate love' is actually a replay of the original sin ? You better get yo' slut self alright with God or we not gonna meet hereafter. And even after all teh deliberate hurt, that bothers me. I want to spend eternity with you. Because I love you.

9) And ninthly...

10) You must be stupid if you think that this impecunious, sponging reptile can give you a better life than I can. The sooner you realise that I am your soul mate, and work at it the better !

Thanks for letting me vent eveyone.... grrr

LOL!! Those are pretty good!

Glad you vented to us and didn't say these things to her!

Hang in there...you are doing just fine.

Dang, that was one of the most complete vents I have ever read on these boards! I hope you feel better. I believe you adequately covered all the issues. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Now brrrreeeaaaatttthhhhhhhhhe. Breathe. Breathe. Ahhhhhhhh . . . . .

SS

ohmygodohmygodohmygod...

Bob, I know this is just a vent and you don't need cheers right now...but OH MY GOD!!! I swear, if my husband divorces me (which will be a deal-breaker for me..lol..sounds funny to say that but I feel i have to since there is a possibility of remarrying him at some time) I am SO saying these things to him, with a little bit of editing.

Bet that felt GOOD to get it out here!!!

I'm curious,

Do you really view your wife as a slut? I understand it's a vent, but even so... I am trying to think of when my wife was gone, I know alot of thought crossed my mind... and when I thought of her with a bunch of different guys, then I would think slut, but otherwise, it really didn't hit me like that.

It's ok if so, it was just a question, no judgement involved. Are you in plan b? It sure sounds like maybe you should protect yourself and the last shred of love you have left. I'm sorry you are having such a crapper day.

Bob, my H actually said all those things to me, and more, not long after d-day. I don't think he called me a slut but he certainly called me a b*tch.

I don't recommend it, but I felt I deserved it. You did the right thing coming here to vent.

Jen

Wow Bob....good vent! I feel like that too some days!!! I just have to remember to come here to vent like that! It does feel good when you get it all out. Hang in there!!!!

Wow Bob....good vent! I feel like that too some days!!! I just have to remember to come here to vent like that! It does feel good when you get it all out. Hang in there!!!!

WOW!!!!

I didn't know you had it in ya to vent like THAT.

You and me could definately go head to head in a verbal anger match.

But like Rookkev said, hope you can keep it bottled up and that your love bank isn't draining too fast.

Do you have a punching bag yet?

GRRRRRR!!!

Day-am!! Those were the best insults I have ever read on here! This boy just opened up a can of Texas whoop [censored]! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

[hope ya feel better, Bob]

Bob,

As a former Betrayed Spouse---I have to say that your vent sucks. It does nothing productive whatsoever for your marriage. With the "communial" applause, you are tearing down your own marriage and lowering your stamina to stay in the plan.

I would tell you not to vent. Especially here. If you need to discuss your marriage and your frustrations---do so with a qualified, pro-marriage counselor (like Steve or Jenn Harley, Penny Tupy, etc.), or with a male friend who is extremely marriage supportive and won't take this crap from you.

Seriously. It's not doing your cause any good.

K, I reserve the right to retain a modicum of English sardonic humour during these worst days of my life so far. I chose to vent here amongst friends, rather than with my W, mutual frieds or therapists. Shoot me <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

I am sorry if my cartoon vent offended you. It made me laugh, and also several others.

I love my wife but that doesn't mean I can't have an irreverent shout about it from time to time.

Edit * Do i think of my wife as a slut ? Depends when you ask me <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

Ps no, not really. Just in case you believed me.

Lighten up K, please. Or don't read my stuff <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

<small>[ August 20, 2004, 04:17 PM: Message edited by: Bob Pure ]</small>

Bob,

You've been here all of 2 months. Will you trust me when I tell you that I've been here several years, and have helped to save hundreds of marriages? Will you trust me when I tell you that I have your marriage's (and others) best interest at heart when I compose a post?

You may find this in fun, and I did note the cartoonish humor (and trust me, I can do equally as well). But, I will tell you, once again, that doing this will damage your marriage. I've seen it far too many times to not recognize the signs. If you want your marriage recovered---it wouldn't hurt you to listen to an old Harley-trained MB poster.

K, Its great you have helped so many folks. I will take your comments on board for the future.

This vent still made me laugh tho' and sustained me to take the BS for another day after my WWs hundredth attenpt to use my Son's behaviour against me.{{{k}}}

BOB, LISTEN TO K! DON"T THROW YOUR CHANCE WITH HIM AWAY, THAT WOULD BE A FOOLISH MOVE. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> KB

I am not new here and yet I haven't been here forever either.

Bob, I really related to your vent. So much of it was what is going on in my own inner voice quite often.

I fight the negative thoughts constantly to keep my marriage going with MB concepts.

Giver and Taker are always arm wresling inside of me!

K...... you are right to caution about getting too negative even in vents since it is a powerful emotional statement.

It WAS quite a thoughtful vent though. Quite thoughtful!

* sigh *

I, too, have been here for awhile and have recovered my own M and helped others.

This post is only a vent. Nothing more than the ravings of a frustrated man.

He hasn't said it out loud to his W or anyone else...just here...anonymously(sp??). All of us have felt this way, at one point or another. We are all entitled to our emotions. Acknowledging our emotions, good and bad, is helpful. Others may not agree with the way another feels but that is their own opinion.

Now, if he continues in this mind set then, yes, it can be destructive. For now, assume it is what it was intended to be...a vent to help relieve a stressful day.

BOB!!!
Loved the vent....but but

Speaking for my own inconsistencies...
If I vent like that here...eventually I will vent like that to my W giving her ammunition to fall backwards...

Now BOB...

Write a 10 line list of why you're hanging in there, explain why you want to save your M...

After a good vent you might need a little restoration...

Not judging you friend just trying to help.... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Let me give you some current ( instant) context to this.

It was just kids bed time.

My DD (11YO) went to bed without any fuss like she always does.

My SS (7YO) always makes a fuss and cries more since d-day because my WW does not enforce boundaries with him since then. He is more like her so she prefers him to my DD.

I said to SS "time for bed son, turn off the TV"

SS " mommy says its ok (it is ten o'clock)"

Son, its not OKAY its time for bed and sleep.

" I'll ask Mommy (comes downstairs)"

WW "leave him alone you bully ! "

DD ( cries "SS always gets his own way with Mommy ! Its not fair !!! "))

WW takes SS to bed.

DD comes to me crying and asking ' Why does mommy love him more than me?"

WW shouts at me " You are a terrible Dad to that boy. He will hate you when he's grown !"

Me (inside ) "Sass'n frass'n rotton rick rastardly"

Me " Plan A" I am not sure I agree that total laissez faire is the best parenting, but I understand that your view is firmly held "

WW storms off to bed in "rightous" anger.
I have done NOTHING wrong, she has done EVERYTHING wrong but still interprets that I have LBed.

And some of you are telling me I can't VENT on here ?

Its luckly I haven't STRANGLED her !!!!

That was hyperbole BTW <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

<small>[ August 20, 2004, 05:05 PM: Message edited by: Bob Pure ]</small>