</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by K:
<strong> Bob,

As a former Betrayed Spouse---I have to say that your vent sucks. It does nothing productive whatsoever for your marriage. With the "communial" applause, you are tearing down your own marriage and lowering your stamina to stay in the plan.

</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">K,
He didn't say this to his wife. A vent on this forum is not hurting anything, and if it made him feel better even for a moment, then it was good. Lighten up.
Michael

Dear Bob,

I'm not sure it's a good idea to actually tell of the A to the people at your daughter's new school, or even at your son's school. You could say there are some problems at home and asks to look out for your children, but if you fix things with your W later on she'll feel very uncomfortable and ashamed to go to her children's school knowing people there will know.

Exposing the A to people that can help the A stop is one thing. But that is not what would be accomplished here. So I'm not really sure why you would tell these people about the A. Right now you couldn't care less about what your wife thinks about this perhaps, but if she comes out of the fog things will be different.

If any of the experienced MB'ers think differently about this - please chime in. But I really don't see any use in exposing the A to people that don't even know your wife or the OM.

I wouldn't want to have people think of my daughter like "O, that's the girl who's mother had an A". People tend to gossip about these things, you know, even when they shouldn't...

<small>[ August 21, 2004, 10:33 AM: Message edited by: brownhair ]</small>

Agreed brownhair. I didn't mean expose the A really, I meant explain the situation.

I agree that exposing to folks who can't affect teh A is pointlessly fuelling gossip and tomorrow's embarrassment. If we DO get over this, I hope only nearest & dearest will know.

Bob, don't know if you can tell ...

I never worry about being "PC"... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

But if you can keep your focus on your children's lovely faces at this very delicate time, it just may save your sanity!

Focus AWAY from ugly OM and vicious attacks by your WW .... who is suffering "withdrawl".

Go re-read SAA about withdrawl.

Angry WW in withdrawl is not a happy home. Keep your distance in order to preserve your sanitly, and perhaps keep your love bank from draining too rapidly.

Look at your WW as SICK and ILL and feeling not herself.

She can become the woman you fell in love with again, unbelievable for you right at the moment, but true!

Pep

pep, I wonder , honey I really do......

This creature bears no resemblance to the woman I have fought side by side with through thick and thin for 22 years.......

She is hateful, dumb, selfish, untrustworthy, ....unlovable.

God alone knows why I still love her enough to put up with this caca...

I just put the kids to Bed and cooked my WW her favourite meal.

" that was nice " she said. Wow my taker is satisfied ! ( not !).

* sigh * ah well just another year or two of this and we will be through this .....


What a strange life this has become.....