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Mel,
I am not concerned of my I.D., more so my story. If a WS was to read through here and recognize us by our stories, wouldn't that ruin everything we try to accomplish? I mean, if WS is aware of plan B and plan B letter, they might just sit back and laugh at our attempts to save our relationships. Though I know the other end of plan B is to help ourselves recover, so it is not a complete loss. But still, our main goal is saving our relationship, right? If a WS was to read our posts and know everything we do...?
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Joe, absolutely that can happen. You don't even want to chance the WS reading here if you are in Plan B.
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how do I stop it. She knows about this site. She may even have been reading since I started writing?
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Joe,
As a FWH I can say that her reading your posts might not be as bad as you think. I intercepted an email once from my W to a friend. I read of her fears, her hurts and her anger. I was crushed. I had wanted my cake and eat it but I didn't want to hurt her (how stupid the fog is looking back...as if the A wasn't hurting her). When I saw how deeply she was hurting it helped focus my anger at myself and my failings. It gave me the motivation to begin the NC and recovery process. This isn't a game we are playing aimed at manipulating emotions...this is real life. Real hurt, real pain, real destruction. So what if she reads it? She needs to see what her decisions are doing and the consquences of her actions. Besides, the fog will cause her to run aground. Plan B away.
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Good point 2scared, thank you!
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