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Aussie 2 yes I agree with you. OM GF has to know the facts. If it drives OM and my WW together then so be it. Lies will not keep them apart.
This is hard though. I want to let the GF have the proof but NOT compound their misery.
Nothing is straightforward in this mess other than the sadness the A has caused everyone.
I am not sure how to assess the best time to contact OM GF with this. Before the funeral ? After ?
It seems so heartless to me, but I know it is necessary.
* sigh * what a mess.
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Bob
what about just ring the OM's GF & give condolences and ask when funeral.you can set time a bit after..yeah but it sucks I agree.
However, remember you are not adding to OM's pain or his GF's either. WW & OM did that.
WW wanted 72 hours wasn't it? Well you'd be past that by then I'd say.
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Aussie 2 I completely agree with you, but remember I am in a decency and 'human being' competition in my WWs mind right now. Any action that could be construed as 'mean' in her fogged world is an LB. AND these are unusual circumstances.
Its so strange this fog. WW is mean to me right now, yet she has just done my ironing and is making my lunch while I work ( from my home office today).
Bizarre. Habit or duty of care? Maybe even love? Dunno. I dare not hope. Just Plan A.
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Hey BP,
I might have missed it, but did you get any confirmation on the OM's son's death?
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I have not called yet RIF90. I DO know that OM and GF came back from reconciliation vacation early though ( I called on morning of tourney and OM answered phone).
Not sure how to confirm without calling OM GF ( same number).
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.....which brings up my question, is this all a ruse? Have you checked the obits?
Do you even KNOW he has an older son?
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I know he has an elder son, I cannot check the obits for the whole of the UK.
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