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Should I send MB link to cheating H?
#1175745 08/23/04 12:03 AM
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My cheating H refuses marriage counseling...shall I send him a link to this website as means to perhaps trigger his interest and allow him to receive some form of therapy to help him relate to what others are going through? Or will this just anger him to see my posts since he is all "fogged" up right now?
Re: Should I send MB link to cheating H?
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kjb23,

it is not adviceable to get him here. You would loose one refuge that you have here. It is not the time yet.

just my 2¢ -rh-
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Thanks...won't tell him about a darn thing!
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kjb, you're at a stage where you want to think that your WH can be reached through logic, but it's likely that he can't.

MB can give you a safe place to ask for help and vent, and it can teach you a new way of communicating with your WH. Part of the effectiveness of MB methods, especially for faithful wives I'd say, is in the way they put the WS off balance. I think it is ill advised to inform the WH about these methods.

Understanding ENs and the things that led them away might be worthwhile for the WS, but it's more useful I think when they are in recovery than when they are actively pursuing an A.

Right now, directing the WH to read everything on MB just shows him your hand.

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