I am really nearing the end of my proverbial rope here...

I haven't called MB yet - I know - but I can't convince my H that MC will work. He thinks it's all a load of crap and just a scam to take your money. He says that if we can't fix it on our own, it can't be fixed.

Well, from my point of view then we're never fixing this damn thing. I know we need help. I need help to guide him to see the fog and the nothingness that he is staking his entire life on.

I mentioned in an earlier post that my H left for his parents this morning. He says it's not like last time (when he left just to spend time with his homewrecker) that he's really doing this to think. But I don't believe him. In fact, I don't believe anything he says any more. Every word that comes out of his mouth is b.s. babble.

I know we have our problems, who doesn't? I know he needs to decide what he wants and needs - if his parents is the venue to do that, so be it. What is really killing me is that he is so damn concerned for her feelings and her well-being and not wanting to upset her that he completely forgets about me and my feeling and my well-being. In his actions he's chosen her over me. Then he tells me he doesn't know.

I am so tired of "I don't know" I could puke. He doesn't remember any of the good times it seems all he focuses on is the bad and the wrong. The OW is such a manipulative b***h! He says she doesn't say anything mean about you (well good for her!) - BUT what he doesn't say is what she does say about us such as "I know the appearance thing is an issue - I never want to get overweight and I will do anything to keep that from happening"; "I will do anything to make and keep you happy"; "I will never make you angry" - Shall I go on? He doesn't see it for the b.s. it is - she's just willing to make him happy, what's wrong with that?

I really in my heart want to expose this to her parents. They are the ones that would really make this uncomfortable for her. They are supposedly very good christian people and I can't say they'd take kindly to the fact that their daughter is an adultress and a homewrecker. She's already had a baby out of wedlock, which was a travesty in their minds... just think what this would do. BUT I am go afraid of what my H would do. I'm afraid he would leave me over it and I'm not sure that exposing the A is worth losing my H over. On the other hand, I could lose him to her either way - I kinda already have - so what have I got to lose right? Oh, I also want to hit her so hard she'll never forget it. Generally I'm not a violent person, but she had NO RIGHT to call my H after he asked her not to the first time.

I am quickly losing my sanity and will to fight... What more can I do??? I'm nearing the end of the rope and I don't really have much strength to hang on...

I haven't called MB yet - I know - but I can't convince my H that MC will work. He thinks it's all a load of crap and just a scam to take your money. He says that if we can't fix it on our own, it can't be fixed.

What? You are listening to him? The confused liar affair infected man?

Pay no attention to his "load of crap" "fix it on our own" ...

Has THAT approach been working for you so far? NOOOOOOO

Well, from my point of view then we're never fixing this damn thing. I know we need help. I need help to guide him to see the fog and the nothingness that he is staking his entire life on.

YOU make the call. You are the only one capable of clear thinking at the moment.

I mentioned in an earlier post that my H left for his parents this morning. He says it's not like last time (when he left just to spend time with his homewrecker) that he's really doing this to think. But I don't believe him.

Good.

Do you know how to tell if the man having the affair is lying? His lips are moving. He is not capable of the truth right now. he is soooo confused!


I am quickly losing my sanity and will to fight... What more can I do???

Make the call. Don't ask your husband. Your family is at risk of falling apart permanently.

CALL NOW!

Pep

H&C

Listen to Pep. You make the call.

I did. Steve Harley is great. He cuts right to the chase. And he can help just you, if that's the case. That's what it was for me.

WH's do all seem to say the same thing. And it all bull and lies.

Like Pep said, if his lips are moving...... they are (WH) all the same. Lies, deceit, and total turn around from what they used to be.

OW also seem to say and do the same things. They only say the things that the WS wants to hear.

Call Steve Harley... even if it's just for you. You're worth it!

Hang in there, and CALL STEVE HARLEY!!!

K