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I Botched The Call
#1176422 08/24/04 11:14 AM
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I called the OM's W today. However, their DD answered the phone. I asked for the OMW. The DD asked who was calling; I could not answer. When the OMW came on the line I froze and could not speak. I called back and the OM answered so I hung up. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />

What do I do now? How do you introduce yourself to someone you don't know with the intent of giving painful information? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" />
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#1176423 08/24/04 01:45 PM
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I called back this afternoon but got their machine. I suspect this is not the kind of thing you leave as a message. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" />
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I called back this afternoon but got their machine. I suspect this is not the kind of thing you leave as a message. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" />
Re: I Botched The Call
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Giving painful information is never fun. But is necessary.

At work, I sometimes have to be the bearer of bad news. It is MUCH more difficult to do this well over the phone (better face to face) ... is this an option for you?

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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by Pepperband:
<strong>...It is MUCH more difficult to do this well over the phone (better face to face) ... is this an option for you?</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Nope OM and OMW live in CA. Would be a long and expensive flight.

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But it would be fun to see his face when he walked into his living room and saw me sitting there. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />
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Re: I Botched The Call
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Just wait and try again later and let OM's W know that it was such a difficult call to make that you froze at first attempt.
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Chances are he's prepared his W for this call and she's thinking you are a crazy person. I'm surprised he hasn't blocked your number yet. If he does you'll have to make that call from a pay phone or something.

Here's a suggestion....when you reach OM'sW remain calm and do not get upset...state the facts and ask her for her email addres so you can email her proof. Scan the documents in so you'll be ready to send them. You might even be able to fax them. She'll need proof...proof she can't dispute or talk herself out of.

Do not call names, I'm sure you wouldn't anyway but don't call him names...she may get defensive and start to think you are just trying to ruin her H. Remain calm and express your love for your wife and your hope to recover your marriage.

Keep trying, don't give up.
Re: I Botched The Call
#1176429 08/24/04 03:14 PM
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Write out a script you plan to follow. That way you will be sure to get everything you need to say said.

Pep

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