I sent an email to WH at his work on Monday morning. Just wrote that I love hearing that he loves me and misses me (he has been leaving voice mails at our home phone).

The email also repeated what the Plan B letter said, only with more specifics (SEND a no contact LETTER to OW; have someone ELSE deliver her cell phones to her; be 100% committed to the recovery of our marriage).

Finished it with how much I love him, and want to spend the rest of my life with him.

He hasn't called and left any messages since Sunday.

So I guess he "gets it" now.

My question is, do WS comply with request for no contact with the BS, or do they try it for a while thinking the BS will start calling them, wanting them back?

And are there instances where the WH just never contacts the BS again, and totally disappears from the BS's life?

What kinds of things can I expect from WH?

In my heart of hearts, I want him to pursue me... but like Pep said "do you want your H back, or the WH back?" I want my husband back.

I know there are many variables in these cases, but what kinds of things can I expect?

Feeling a little low this evening.... K

K, he is not calling because your email gave him the fix he needed. That is all he needed to keep going on and possibly resume his affair.

If you don't respond to him, it gives him motivation to comply with your letter so he can come home and get his K fix. So please stay dark. The only thing he should ever hear from you, if you accidentally talk to him, is: have you ended contact? If no, then say good bye and hang up. No 'Ilove you' or anything like that.

I just want to say that i understand in more ways than one.I have been on both sides of the fence and women always want the man to come for them because if we do we feel valnerable probably spelt that wrong anyways.I beleive that we should always foolow our hearts but that doesn,t always work.If 2 people are really meant to be together then no matter what he does or you for that matter you will find your way back to each other.I hope this helps.Good Luck R.M.U

Mel and RMU

Thanks for your responses. I will stay dark.

Today, I sent his mail to him. No note, just the envelope with the address on it.

I plan on staying dark. I felt I needed to send him the email because I think he read the Plan B letter, but didn't really read it, if you know what I mean.

It's hard, because some days are good. I feel more like myself now... joking and having fun at work with friends.

I guess I just feel a little down today. But I CAN see that the rollercoaster ride has smaller peaks and valleys.

I did the Plan B because he continued to keep up the A even tho he "broke it off" with OW. I knew they were at least still talking on the phone.

When I finally kicked him out the last time, he told me that OW has not called him... she said she would let him work on his marriage if that's what he wanted. If he broke it off with her, she would be done with him.

I told him then that I KNEW of at least three times that OW had called him. He doesn't know how I knew, I just said I have my ways.

He was still protecting HER!

Another thing that has me feeling down is the fact that he took DD and her roommate to dinner. A place he's never taken me.... but DD said he had been there before. I know it was with OW.

I guess that was information I just didn't need to know. It really pi$$ed me off!!!

Anyway, still dark. Feeling a little down. But I know tomorrow is a new day.. the sun will come up, and I will go on.

Thanks, K

Good deal, K. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> Can I make a suggestion? Please ask your DD to stop telling you about WH. Really. Telling you about his life only sets you back and upsets you. See how distraught you are about this tidbit? I know you probably want to hear the latest, but believe me, it will do you NO GOOD and only set you back and disturb your peace. I have always thought that old saying that "curiosity killed the cat" was stupid, but it is very appropos in Plan B!

I think you are doing real well, K, and am very impressed with how well you have handled all this. Hopefully, your H will wake up soon and come back. Good job! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Good Morning Mel!

Thanks for the encouragement. I consider your advice a "rebuke from the wise". Not really a rebuke, but you know what I mean.

It is a new day... the sun came up (anyway, I know it's there behind those clouds). I feel pretty good today. Worked out last night, took a long bath afterwards, and did some pampering for myself.

I look around my house, and see all the work I did on it last weekend (rearranged the furniture, got rid of some junk, and organized some things).
I really got in and did some cleaning like I hadn't done in a long time. I like what I see.
A new perspective.

I am looking forward to my appointment with Steve Harley this Friday. I know he will give me some good advice.

Much like I get here. Thanks again.

FRIENDSHIP PRAYER

"May the fleas of a thousand camels infest the crotch of the one who screws up your day, and may their arms be too short to scratch"

AMEN

Thanks, Mel and all.... K