It has been two weeks since Dday and I am just wondering when the trust will come back. I have been focusing on myself lately...working out and take time to look my best..now, he is saying that 'I'm looking for another man'. The OW sent me some of the emails that he sent and it is really hard to believe how much he has lied about not being married, etc. The OW says that she really cared for him and it is like we are friends. I just wanted to information just in case a D comes up and I want all the alimony I can get. Anyway, it is like he expects me to just forgive him and move on...WHAT...after bringing another woman in our bed...come one...he must be smoking something! He keeps saying that the OW is adding stuff on to the emails and I told him that he hasn't showed me anything to go on...I just believe a majority of what I read b/c this is the 2nd A and now, I just think he will be good for a while and back to the 'fantasy' life again. Any thoughts on this..it is like a pattern...2 A in 2 year period of time. We are in MC..going tomorrow for the second session.

The trust will come back when he earns your trust. It may take years. But if this is a pattern with your H, you may just have to learn to accept living with infidelity because you can't change someone's personality.

AtlantaGirl - Sorry to hear of your continued pain and the ongong lies / betrayals. As MelodyLane indicated the trust will come back if and when he earns it.
I do think that you also have another choice as opposed to learning to live with his continued infidelities, that is, you don't have to if you don't want to.
Hopefully the MC and yourself will be able to sniff out if this is a personality trait that is likely to cause continued A's or find out what the root cause is so it can be addressed. Keep posting as other will provide you support, love and perspective.