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<small>[ September 25, 2004, 11:05 AM: Message edited by: pemberley ]</small>
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I would tell him until you are officially D that you are still husband and wife. If he wants to "see" other people then he should consider changing the paperwork to a D and not a legal separation.
This is a risk...you don't want a D and it sounds like you would be asking for it (which is just what he wants to relieve his guilt). He will probably say "You want a D?" then you can say..."I want our M, and I want to work on making it the best M possible. What I'm saying is that if youi want to "see" other people the only way that would be acceptable to me in good conscience is if we were D...not just legally separated."
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<small>[ September 25, 2004, 11:08 AM: Message edited by: pemberley ]</small>
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I am not sure about the whole legal seperation thing. However, it wouldn't think it would be ok to date. My h said the same thing only we are not legally seperated. He said he can date whoever because he left me.He just left, no mc, no explaination, just left.I think it is their way to justify dating. They know DV is wrong and having an A is wrong. So why not seperated and date. They have twisted minds and try to twist Gods word.
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Dating while one is married is called adultry, which is a sin. I think I read this hear one time:
Married = Married
Seperated = Married
Divorcing = Married
Divorced = Divorced
So unless you two are divorced dating is wrong, wrong, wrong.
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Pemberly.. Did being legally and actively married inhibit him from dating? No, it did not. Will being separated give him free reign? No, it will not. Will he continue to do just as he likes anyway? Yes, he will. The separation is to protect yourself and your assets. Right now this man is not your husband..he has cast you aside. You need to protect yourself from him until and unless he comes to his senses. Do not be deterred from your course of action by fog speak. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />
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<small>[ September 25, 2004, 11:09 AM: Message edited by: pemberley ]</small>
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Am I right in saying that a legal separation in no way makes it permissable to pursue other romantic/sexual relationships
No, you are wrong.
Legal separation almost always makes it legally permissable to date others.
Doesn't make it right though.
Legal separation sets up the legal obligations of both parties.
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