Well, I will tell you the details, and you think about how you would feel if you found out the same things about your H.
She was the physical aggressor. The first thing they did was kiss, my WW kissed him.
The 'handball' game was her idea too.
The 'pop-sical' was first enjoyed in a bar parking lot. My WW initiated the whole event. He was a little nervous and she had to work hard to keep him that way (I am not talking about keeping him nervous, but the other). No messy clean up either. Every time that happened, it was always work for her.
The first full blown sex was again in a bar parking lot, (we never had sex in a bar parking lot) again initiated by my WW and again, she had to use alternating tenichiques to keep him 'in the moment'.
When she got pregnant there was no condom. She told me it broke. The story was so good. I bought it hook line and sinker. He told me he just 'made a mistake'. He actually sounded like he felt bad. LOSER
Hmmmm, what have I left out. He is not as large as I am, in fact, she was quite disappointed and she actually told me I have a "beautifal c#$% that is huge and always hard". They slept in his bed, after she was with him, she would come home to me and not feel bad at all. She actually told me that he was helping our marriage. My sisters friend saw them on a date.....
Well, think about that and if you think it would somehow help, by all means push the issue. I would recommend against it. I am bawling my eyes out as I type this. I hope I do not get an electric shock from my computer.
My imagination is very powerful. I could have never made up some of that stuff. The details may help satisfy your instincts, but we all know what that will get us.
I would like to hear other input on your question and my answer.
Good luck, and do what you think will help the situation get better, not what your reptialian brain tells you to do.
