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Man, I cannot believe the fact that I am letting her just f$%k this guy while she thinks about what SHE F-ing wants!!!?? WTF!!? SHE is the one who completely f-ed me over! I must have no self-respect to even consider it. Also found out that when she went to Indiana she took this f-ing SOB with her. Her parents allowed him into their home. The same mother f-ing pos that screwed me over and helped ruin our marriage. These r people who supposedly care about me? BACKSTABBERS is what they are! How much of this crap should I put up with? These people can all burn in hell as far as I am concerned. SO MAD RIGHT NOW! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" />

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I know it sucks so bad! My In-laws are all for me when I am there but nice to her too. It doesn't make and sense.It doesn't matter as long as you are doing the right thing.Be mad all you want just don't let it consume you!

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I'm sorry to hear things aren't going well. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" />

I really hate this pulling back in and being thrown away that the WS seems to do to us.

I guess we just have to remember that they are confused as well so they tend to make a lot of mistakes on their way to finding out what is right.

I really feel for you. I'm so sorry that you have to go through all this again.

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Juke....I feel the same as you. I feel like I'm being a doormat also. Hang in there!!! In the end we will be better off no matter what!
{{{HUGS}}}}

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Juke-this is all relatively new. All your anger and hurt is natural, but it will pass. Give it time and open mindedness, and you may well be surprised at the happiness your future will bring. panne.

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Juke-this is all relatively new. All your anger and hurt is natural, but it will pass. Give it time and open mindedness, and you may well be surprised at the happiness your future will bring. panne.

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Juke what happened? Daggit (btw, that's not what I wanted to say) I thought she was waking UP! I know this bites big time. I feel the same way, people enabling the betrayal of a M are scum. Just remember she probably fed them a crock of crap and painted you very NEGATIVELY and him as a SAINT. Don't blame them, they are caught in the middle, BLAME HER!

Sorry, I don't think I know the words to cheer you up. Try not to think about it <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" /> Yeah right like that HELPS! I'm in the same boat! The only problem is we don't have many alternatives, if we go out and have an A to spite them we'll feel 100 times more guilty than them because we KNOW how dumb and selfish it is. WHEN she comes back to you she will kiss the ground you walk on....or at least she'll love you more than any man who's ever graced the face of this earth...(not counting Jesus...but he wasn't just a man he was ...anyway you get my picture)...

Sorry you're going thru this...time to life some weights, kickbox or something. How about a beer?

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Juke - You are now at the point where she may be coming back. But you are wondering if you want her back. That is perfectly normal. We all go thru that.

The fact that your in-laws did not respect your marriage is going to be hard to deal with. I have gone thru the same thing.

What you need to do now is decide what you really want. Do you want your wife back or would you rather just go on without her?

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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by believer:
<strong> Juke - You are now at the point where she may be coming back. But you are wondering if you want her back. That is perfectly normal. We all go thru that.

The fact that your in-laws did not respect your marriage is going to be hard to deal with. I have gone thru the same thing.

What you need to do now is decide what you really want. Do you want your wife back or would you rather just go on without her? </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">See Believer is <img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" /> and she makes perfect sense....hold up am I going to feel the same way?

WHOA! Maybe that's why I wasn't so emotional today when my W came by. No door slamming, no raised voice, no convincing, just CALM almost NUMB. Now that I think about it, JUKE was like that with his WW on many occassions before this!

Talk about a freaking rollercoaster!

Juke you there man?

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JUKE!!

Take a breath and think...(I hope he doesnt know where they stay. Juke is no pushover, he could do some damage if he wanted to)

JUKE!!

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Juke, I hope you're not losing your shyte. Go to the gym or something, man. Get this out in a way that helps you.

Hang on buddy. This situation needs to play out. Chow popcorn.

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I am here. Still angry as hell. I was falling asleep and the reality of what she did and is doing popped into my head. I want to call this [censored] or go over there and do something so bad! I know where they are. At least forwarding the email she sent me would cause some problems. I just want to say look what you did u f$^%#ng [censored]! You ruined this girl and our marriage just so u could get laid. I would love for this guy to tresspass on my property. He would be leaving without a head. Man, why am I soo angry again!?? Well, she did it. She pulled me right back into her mess. Arggg. I feel like I should do something.

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I would also love to call her pos mom and stepdad and give them a piece of my mind. That almost makes me more angry than anything.

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Yes, you should do something. Calm down!

I've been there, and now so glad I did nothing I'd regret later on!
Trust me, better to deal with that with dignity!
Everything will pass by, this or the other way, but what we forever stay and cope with - is our self-respect, is - being ourselves, not pull down to their own dirt!

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Juke, you must vent and find peace.

Got any sleeping pills? Mmmmm, sleeping drugs. The other night I took an Ambien and wrote an email to my friend just as the drug was kicking in. Next morning I read what I'd written - a complete riot. I couldn't have swatted a mosquito at the time.

Sorry, hit a tangent there.

Juke, until you and your FWW are skipping merrily along into your future, blissful and happy as pigs in sh*t, expect ups to be followed by downs. Stop letting yourself get caught off guard by them. You haven't gotten to the third act yet.

Want some butter on that popcorn?

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