The OW is doing her damndest to make sure I have no friends left and is turning H's family against me as well. She is using her child to manipulate H, his parents and brothers and sisters against me. She has already convinced H that I am crazy and my INL's won't even talk to me now. Now H wants his brother to move in with OW while he's in prison. Any friend that my H and I have she does whatever she can to make sure they take her side. I don't know what to do. I avoid this woman like the plague she is. Yet behind the scenes she is doing whatever she can to make sure H hates me and everything else she can to destroy my life. How come she can get away with this?
Is there anything I can do, and if so what? Short of killing her that is.

Simply be who you are.
If you're good & honest or you lie, cheat & steal, people will see this sooner or later.
Pretty soon, they will see the ow for who she is.

Cyn...

Although it may not look that way..OW is unwittingly doing you a favor. She is showing you who among your friends is truly your friend and who is merely your friend out of convenience. I would give her free reign to conquer any nation that can be conquered and just make note.

Then take stock..if his family and friends abandon you in her favor..let her have them. They are of poor quality, low morals, and disregard principles in favor of comfort. Which sort of explains a lot about just how your H might have landed in his present situation. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

Do not despair..this betrayal stings mightily..but ultimately it is gain.

I have been in Plan B for awhile now. OW is so good at manipulating. She pretends to be this poor misguided person who never did anything wrong and life has been so cruel to her. She has a husband and children. That wasn't enough for her. She has completely turned H against me. Any of her other boyfriends want to kill her themselves once they break up. Now she has H's child to manipulate the situation and believe me she uses this to the fullest. H believes "anything" she says and never questions anything. In 13 yrs. I was there for him and never betrayed his trust and now because of OW he tells everyone I'm crazy (her words). Even if he hated me I didn't deserve this. This b**** is good at what she does, trust me.

She has completely turned H against me.
THis is good. He KNOWS how you really are. She has no right to slap you down to him. He's playing along with her for now. Sooner or later, he will get sick of her cutting you down, especially for no reason and he will see her for what she is & drop her like the box of rocks she is. Personally, I'd bet large amounts of money on this.

Continue to be the "stand up guy" in this and you WILL come out ahead.

Cyn...let them believe her. Just sit back and watch those very same people wipe the egg from their faces when they realize who is and who isn't the respectable one here. I know it hurts...I've been through it. The OW has had a field day with me (learned thru stepson). You would think I'm the personification of the wicked wife...My inlaws are not so different than yours. My H left and took his family with them; I was most hurt by their defection as I did everything for them. They haven't spoken to me or our children for um, over a year or so. My MIL is very chummy with the OW as well. Hmmm, I wonder if Mum-in-Law knows that her son refers to the OW as a manipulator....I never thought I'd see it nor experience it, but guess who will have the last laugh...

Cyn,

You posted a few days ago about sending your H a letter "telling him off". That isn't allowed in Plan B...PLUS, you are giving this OW ammo every time you fire off one of those letters.

STOP giving her ammo. You cannot control what she does...you CAN control YOU.

Even though I know it goes against the MB principles...I want to tell you to leave it. He is in jail...and he's gonna be in jail for quite a while..isn't he? He hasn't been a prize from the get-go. Walk away from that bad Jerry Springer episode.

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Cyn,

Just be yourself and remain calm. The OW was a client of mine and was trying to discredit me with my employers. Guess what the more she tried, the more proof I had and the more she got caught in her lies.

The same goes for my in-laws. She is after my in-laws money, she tried to be part of this family, even tried to plan my SIL's baby shower. After the A was expose, my MIL wanted to believe she was working on her marriage, but she listened and watched more closely to the OW and she got caught in lie after lie. My in-laws can't stand her and sees her for exactly for who she is.

People who malipulated will eventually get caught. I wish my WH will see this, but right now she is perfect in his eyes. There is nothing I can do, but be true to myself.

My friends and Wh family are so proud of me on the way I have handle this situation. I'm not going to lower my standards and seek revenge. God will handle her in his own time. I know it doesn't seem fair, especially with all the pain we have suffered. I know I'm stronger because of what I went through.

As for friends, if they are takiang the OW side, they weren't friends to begin with and you are better off without them. Your real friends, know you for who you are and will stand by you.

Remember stay true to you and eventually the OW will hang herself with her malipulation and lies. The sad part is that there is an innocent child involved in all this mess.

Cyn,

Have you considered that you might personally be in a bit of a fog here?

Fact: Your WH is a jailbird. He will always have that tag on him.

Fact: He's not remorseful in the least.

Fact: You are smart, attractive, and worthy of a man who will honor and cherish you, and care enough for himself that he will also honor the law of the land so that he has full capacity to provide for his family.

Are you so very desperate for a man, that you would cling to this low-life, even though right now you have to support your own family, and "compete" with a low-life-scum-bag-h* for his love?

Please get some therapy. You are better than this!

It is so hard to keep a positive additude right now. I keep hoping OW will eventually hang herself.
And no, I don't "need" any man. I am self supporting and I always have been. If I needed a man I would have picked one up by now.
H changed completely since he met OW. It's like I'm dealing with a complete stranger.
I try not to give OW anything to use to her advantage. She finds ways to use whatever she can against me and when she can't find anything will invent something. Her goal is to have me completely out of H's life so she is trying to get H's family and friends to hate me. She has a pretty good weapon, H's child.
After 13 yrs. together this isn't fair and my M and my H are important to me. H wasn't a loser before he met OW but sure is now.
I tried counseling and it made matters worse!