hello all,been buisey the past few weeks and not posting.

the points i've been getting have been from being with FWW? she has been in and out of the DR.'s and the ER last week. she is dealing with a kidney infection,overian syist(has had them before)that had burst and an ulser(oh the tryfecta). i feel that the ulser is from also on top of the other health problems she found out that her primary job is shuting down.(this dosent bother me much becouse the OM used to work with her)but i have been verry suportive of her in this hole matter.

the time i've beendealing with is she hasent told me one way or the other about an e-mail account that i found after we wer suposed to be working on the M.she told me that their hasnt been any contact with OM and shes having i time dealing with it becouse she feels that their relationship musent have ment anything to him.

one othe thing is that we have had speratic SF when we do its usuly her doing. i just wish it was more,evens out to once every other week for the last 2 mounths(3 times in the beginning of june and once the beginning of aug.)

just could use some advice how not to LB. i'm trying to pick my fights(maybe not the right words but still the way i feel).

thanks all! dmb. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" />

<small>[ August 27, 2004, 05:08 AM: Message edited by: dmb1967 ]</small>

Dear dmb,

I guess it's like a smoker that has to cut the habit, not because they choose to, but because the spouse says "the cigarette's are out or you are!".

If they really love you they'll try to "quit". But if they are still weak they'll sneak out to have the occasional fag, denying it all of course.

Maybe the OM didn't have any strong feelings about your W. That doesn't mean she wouldn't try to get some reassurance from him that he didn't just "use" her. Like a crush you'd have in high school, following around your "love" everywhere, wanting to hear from him, anything will do even if it's not even friendly or loving.

Your W will have to kick the habit. Cold turkey (NC) is the most effective thing to do but it seems many WS "sneak out to get a puff" even when they really, really want to quit "smoking" <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> .

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