Out with WH (I call him the Maytage Man - Mr. wishy-washy) having couple of drinks, a friend of ours was telling us about his brother, who lives in NY, wanting to come here for a visit but his wife would not let him. Friend says he doesnt understand why he wont just come anyway, brother tells him because he doesnt want to do anything to make her mad because she takes real good care of him! WH looks at me and asks "what would you call that, just being comfortable?" I said "his choice." Then I asked H why he asks that question, was he referring to our situation? He said no,not really. I said well I've told you that can change whenever you like! I told you I refuse to play your game! H says why are you mad? You said I could talk to you. I said, I am not mad but I also said I expect nothing but HONESTY from you when we do talk...not bull....!! He looked at friend and said, "shes tough." A few minutes went by and he really started with the attention and affection...asking for kisses and so forth, then asked me "are you mad at me?" I chuckled and said everything was just fine, honey!! Just struck me as funny, because when I thought about it, I should of said "LOVE"!!! Isnt that what "getting your needs met" truly means????

* cough! Choke ! * thats some pea-souper fog you got there ! * coff* somebody open a window * hack !* Coff ! *

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Be strong. I be swimmin in that poopy pool too.

Thanks for reply Bob,

Thought that was kinda funny!! Any "translation" for me? Is this coming from a "fence sitter?" And why "pour" on the affection and attention when this happens? I just dont get it???

Sabot, I am still a newbie in this arena , but I have learned with my own WW that like beatnik poetry, its not supposed to make sense, jut make the narrator feel better.

Ignore everything he says. Notice only what he does until NC is established and the fog dissipates.

Good luck , be strong and God bless you.