I am moving on with my life as my WH still states he doesn't love me anymore. He has started a whole new life with OW. They will be together forever and have children. Interesting since both of them have children they only see part time. I want to find someone else as I don't deserve this treatment. It is soooo hard to raise an infant alone. I pray constantly to get strength.
The hardest thing is dealing with him during visitation. He can only come to my home as I don't want OW with my two week old. That makes plan B hard. Most of the time I run errands but just seeing him and talking to him is tough. He acts like everything is great. Tells me to let him know if I need anything ect.
Any advice on how to make visitation easier and how to get though the upcoming divorce.

I can't imagine going through this heartreak with such a young baby to care for. And it's even harder for me to comprehend how your WH and the OW could be so heartless!

I think the running errands during his visitation with the baby is a good idea.
Maybe you can arrange to have a relative or friend there when he arrives and you be gone somewhere? It might be easier for you emotionally that way. Plus he's going to have to get used to not having you anymore (my husband tried to use visitation as an excuse to force me to keep seeing him...)

Keep busy and maybe if he thinks you're getting over him and getting ready to start a new life without him, it will help clear the fog?

Did he already file for divorce? If so, how soon will it all be over? (Sorry - I've been away and haven't stayed up-to-date.)

durham -

Yes it is hard with a newborn. By the way, what did you name him?

I would try to hang in there, and see if he gets tired of OW. Also be sure you are getting financial support.

Yes, it is hard taking care of an infant alone. I am not going to tell you it gets easier, but you will get more sleep eventually. The joy helps to outweigh the hard parts of being a single mother.

Rely on your parents as much as you can, or any good support you have.

Being a single parent does get lonely, but not as lonely and hard as being an unhappy mother with a husband who is fogged out. You will eventually stop caring about your WH and become happy regardless of what comes of your marriage.

I would definately try to set up visitation so you don't have to see him, or leave asap when he walks in. I had hoped he would have come out of it by now, and I fear that the longer he stays in the affair the less chance he has of you ever taking him back. Being pregnant with your first child and him pulling this is a hell of alot different than other affairs, in my opinion.

You will have to deal with this man for a very long time so being able to detach from him with love will suit you and your son a lot better than hating him.

I would not have allowed OW near my child either, and fortunately she didn't last long. My DD's dad is now married to a woman I like and who is good to my DD. This is the best I could have hoped for.

I don't think this affair your WH is in will last either...in fact I would bet it won't.

You're going to make it Durham, and I know that you will find love again.

Weaver