I'm trying no contact ,however one of my children is on the football team who had a scrimmage tonight. Earlier I write a post because I'm in Plan B because he is living with this OW now, since she left her spouse two weeks ago, we have been separated since June 1 2004. The children want limited time with him and yesterday I asked for a legal separation. So heres the problem. I get to the school and he begin to slow his walk until we get up to him, and as usual expected us to act as if everything was fine. My other son refused to speak, I tried to get him to a least say hello, he said no. My husband looked a bit embarressed so I kept walking and sat in a totally different location. He didn't look our us the entire time during the game but talked a bit to our other son, who also is a bit uneasy. I don't feel I can pretend at this stage of the game. I really feel I just don't want to talk to him. However the legal separation isn't in place and I feel right now he is in control of our finances and is using that against us so I'll be nice and he will deposit the funbs. Did I do the right thing and ignore him and sit in a different location? At the end of the game, I did tell him we have a schedule for him and the kids can give it to him tommorrow when they see him for 2-3hrs. I didn't even feel comfortable with that. I have no family here. Ok blast away!!!

Did you give him a Plan B letter? How long did you Plan A?