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Hi, I recently discovered a whole family history of affairs in WS's family. (Aunt, uncle, possibly grandparent and mum).
1. Is it possible that this family history makes an A acceptable to WS as she has seen A's as part of her own family?
2. Should this have been a big red flag for myself and others?
3. Is this cyle of repitition likely to continue?
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From my own history and my H's I would say that it is not. My family was full of WS's more than even I can write on this post. However, my H's family does not. His parents married until death did them part. FIL always true blue to MIL, says as much on occasions. BIL never in a million years step out on W.
My family....M&D stepped out on each other...seperated for over 25 yrs(can't divorce against religion) 3 brothers..divorced.
Me I'm in love and always want to be with my H. But he's the one who betrayed me????
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After reading what I wrote, maybe it is. Look at my family...M&D and all brothers <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> ....just not me. look at H's family noone <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" /> but him.
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My H`s upbringing was full of A`s. His stepfather (mom's 2nd husband) cheated on her 3x to his knowledge. His mom's 2nd relationship, which produced two children, was never a legal marriage. He believed they had been married up until about 5 years ago. His mom & dad divorced when he was 4. He isn't aware of any adultry in that marriage.
H swore to me that he would never leave me, cheat on me, or divorce me. With the childhood he lived, bouncing from one "daddy" to the next, he was determined not to repeat his mother's life. Yet he went out and had an affair. Someone explain that to me...
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BT- It appears to have applied to my situation.
WW came from broken family, her mum had an A as did several blood relatives. Not sure that it is a gauranteed indicator but I did read that children from broken families are more likely to end up in a D as they tend unwittingly repeat their parents behaviours in later life.
<small>[ September 01, 2004, 02:23 AM: Message edited by: RenaissanceMan ]</small>
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