Well, new here. Not married, but in relationship for 2 years with love of my life. He's been acting standoffish and I felt that something was wrong for a while now. He's in the Navy and his ship was sailing to Hawaii. I wasn't sure he was there yet, but called his cell number. Lady answered the phone. I thought at first it was the wrong number and hung up. Called back, she answered again. I asked to speak to him. He got on the phone speaking in a cheerful, matter of fact tone and told me that he is not with me. Said we are not together. I asked him what in the world is he talking about. Asked who that woman is. He told me that is none of my concern and not to call anymore. I did. Several times, he hung up on me after talking and laughing with her, and telling me to hold on. I am devastated. Hurt, shook down to my bones. I feel that I am trembling inside. Taking off today so I can get a plan for getting myself together. I just started grad school. I also work full time and have a small child. When I mentioned her, he said, "Who?" I am soooo shocked and hurt. Can someone help me get the right information to begin a healing path on this one? Thanks for your help and support.

Cafe,
Considering this just happened I'm sure dealing with a serious whirlwind of emotions. I would say seek out a friend to comfort you, a family member, same sex friend who might help you stay grounded at this trying time. There's no justification for treating another human being so rudely. Your BF sounds like he's putting up a wall, probably because he wants to seem so confident and impress OW. He's hiding behind his ego at the moment and wants to wear his mask of no emotional attachment to you and what he's doing. This mask will come down eventually, but don't wait for it. Get right into the process of halping yourself right now. This too shall pass.

I'm sorry you're hurting right now your BF's actions are irresponsible and beyond hurtful. I can't imagine him sleeping well after the awe effects wears off with his new companion. We cannot escape ourselves. Stay strong.

He is acting like the typical cheater. He is telling her one thing, and you something else.

You might want to get some anti-depressants to help you get thru this. It is miserable at first, but does get better.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by cafeaulais:
I just started grad school. I also work full time and have a small child.</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Aren’t you going to be busy?!
So busy not to have time at all to think of him!

Instead of anti-depressants - Study hard, work hard, and take a good care of your child.
Every passed exam, every smile of your child, will increase your self-esteem and make you stronger and loving and respecting yourself more… From there is not hard way to find a man who you can be happy with…
(About this one…. Just let him go…)

Thank you for your comments. I really appreciate your help.

Thank you for your comments. I really appreciate your help.