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Somehow, I saw this coming. The last two weeks, I've been on eggs wondering what might happen. Well, onlywords went for her daily walk and OM stops his tractor and "pretends" to be working on it while onlywords is passing his way. When she got close enough, he calls out "Is that rover," "How's rover doing?" (talking about our dog). She ignored him and looked away. (Good girl!)

Well, she called me at work to tell me, but unfortunately I wasn't around. When I got back, I called OMW to inform her. Now, she's sticking up for her man. She's at least going to go home tonight and see if he brings up the topic. Looking back now, I think he was just testing onlywords to see if she'd tell me.

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Rec H,

Sadly neither of you can control what the OP does or doesn't Do.
Only what each of you choose to Do.

Great news is that Only words handled it as well as YOU could have hoped for.

This has to Go So far in proving to you exactly where your relationship is ....and is heading.
You 2 sure have done a fabulous job navigating this journey called Recovery.

If it was a test: She Passed...he failed.

To you only words: Thank you so much for doing the right thing and not breaking your H's trust. YOU GO GIRL!

Wishing Continued Success for you both!
Finally some Good news! YEA!
His Blessings on your lives.

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TR: Thanks. You're right in that she passed.

OMW called back while I had the kids at practice. For some reason, onlywords didn't answer the phone, though she did on the preceding two calls. We got OM's side of the story and "he was just talking to the dog, because the dog scared him." Yeah right, a 15 lb dog will do that to you from 20 feet away even after you've seen it walking at you for 500 yards. He's got his W so fogged up, that I can care less about them at this point.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> This has to Go So far in proving to you exactly where your relationship is ....and is heading.
You 2 sure have done a fabulous job navigating this journey called Recovery. </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">You are so right. Thanks. But it's disconcerting to us to have to put up with his crap. We had a good talk tonight (onlywords and I) and we're at peace with it.

RH

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I think you and onlywords are gonna do just fine. When a marriage has survived what yours has, it will get stronger and better.

You both can take pride in that. You have faced the demons and come out together.

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I'm thinking maybe we should call OM's wife and tell her to tell the a##wipe that she (our dog) isn't interested.

I'm blown away by this.

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Recovering H

I agree with top rope & believer, you’re doing great!

Onlywords, you handled this incident perfectly. I’m proud of you!

May God bless you both and this marriage, <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Greetings,
Suzet


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