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Kids and OP question
#1180729 09/01/04 03:46 PM
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I have been reading and reading and reading here.
One thing that caught my eye was not to allow kids around op. But is that something we have the legal right to say?
My H lets her around all the time. He lets her stay the weekend with them. I had to throw a huge fit to get him to stop letting my son sleep in the same bed as them. I KNOW DONT EVEN GET ME STARTED ON THAT!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" />

How do I enforce this? We see a mediator next week in which I want to try and stop her from moving in right now. But is this within my rights?
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Hi cookies,

Ugh.I don't know what state you live in but where I am,I could have had a legal order from the court barring the homewrecker from being around my children.Now,it may differ from state to state or judge to judge but my lawyer told me I had an excellent chance.However,the homewrecker of my WH lives in another country so the likelyhood of a meeting was very low AND I told my WH that that person is to never be around my kids and he(smartly) agreed.I would have gone ballistic in any way I could.

Kids do not need to be around selfish pretentious users and it's too bad,very bad,that these WS's don't see the harm in what they are doing to their kids let alone BS's.They need a good ole 2x4 to the head IMO.Seek out some counseling to find out your rights.And,I would do that alone,not with your WH in a mediators office.Good luck.

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Depending on your state, by all means, you might be able to have an order issued that your OW is not to come within 100 yeards of your kids!

But I think you'll need an attorney to do this, not just a mediator. In any case, speak with the mediator. If the mediator says "he agrees to not have OW around the kids," don't believe it unless there is a legal consequence attached (like he only gets to visit the kids in your presence).

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