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My delima is that ww wont leave and im not leaving. Is it possible to have an effective plan b and each spouse take turns leaving. Her for 2 weeks then me for 2 weeks and so on?
I know an effective part of plan b is to have the ww leave and miss what they dont have and face reality but can this be a comprimise?
not sure?
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Don't know if this would be an effective PlanB because your WW is not really suffering any consequences. She doesn't lose anything, and on the 2 weeks you are in the house you would probably be doing any maintenance so she would not even have to deal with that.
However, it could be a practice of what divorce looks like, according to my lawyer who told me he has seen cases where the parents take turns living in the house and caring for the children after the divorce so the children do not have to leave their home!
And it could be a good time to PlanA, as you will not have to deal with the affair on a daily basis, or your WW's fogness. Yes, it could be a good Plan A'ing time.
I would not leave the house even for two weeks without first making sure I talk to a very good lawyer about the possibilty of her yelling abandonment. Might want to have it legally drawn up if you do go this route.
Hopefully some people with some real PlanB knowledge will jump on your thread soon.
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No, this is unlikely to be a good Plan B. If your wife won't leave, then you need to do so or you need to forget Plan B. Have you done counseling with the Harley's (888-639-1639) or with Penny at SYMC? They can help you with this Plan B transition.
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you can't plan b..
cause plan b follows plan a
and
you havent' followed plan a
what's holding you back
her anger...
push past and through that and keep doing the noble husband dad thing...
you got lots of choices...
some include a house full of coldness
sarcasm
glares ,stares,
one is a house with light and music...
where you stay upbeat..
you SMILE at her
you greet her
you ask how she is....
keep the stand offish behavior...and it will just be reflected back and forth...
If your wife sees no hope from you...when she feels so hopeless...
how and where will she find hope...
ARK
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Thanks i understand both all of your messages....
I am starting a new string (topic) and have a specific question
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