<small>[ September 25, 2004, 10:15 AM: Message edited by: pemberley ]</small>

Pemb .... I'm sorry I didn't read your whole thread .... I don't know if anyone else mentioned this or not ....

Your family is looking out for your best interest ... however "emotionally" black mail is not a good tool for anyone to use (in ref to terminating the entire policy b/c of him). Guilt much!!!! Anyway maybe explain it is a "legal separation' and these are terms you agreed on. Example the Cell phone and the Med Ins. and anything else of an agreement between you and him. Your family shouldn't put in a position to of all or nothing. What would happen is you reconcile???? Are you out of a job too????

Any way, my $.02 .... I'm sorry if I hit topics covered already.... I will read thread when I have time.

Good luck

Brown

<small>[ September 25, 2004, 10:15 AM: Message edited by: pemberley ]</small>

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> I eavesdropped on a conversation today. They talked to their insurance agent today and he told them to drop me to part-time, then I will lose my insurance (and my husband's). That's what they're planning to do. </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">You know, that really disturbs me.

Can you ask them what would happen to you if (god forbid) you got sick and needed to go to the hospital?

For one moment they need to remove him from the entire equation and do what is in YOUR best interests...as in HEALTH CARE. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" />

What type of parent would take your health care from you so that they don't have to cover the WS of that same child?

God forbid if you had had a child with this man...I guess they would have taken its health care too.

You need to get to the bottom of THEIR issues. You are working for them....you are ENTITLED to health care when they give it to other employees.

It is inexcusable in my book.

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Adding a few questions...

Are your parents controllers?

Did they have a part in the demise of your marriage?

Did you H have issue with them being involved in your marriage?

Something just isn't right with it.

If the above answers can be "yes"...then you might need to remove yourself from them in whatever way you can.

Do NOT work in the family business...find another job.

Do NOT engage with them on anything between your H and you.

Do NOT live with them...get out no matter where you have to live...even if a shelter.

You are an adult...you are in charge of your life. You do not have to succumb to emotional blackmail like this...you really don't.

It might be hard...but it would be worth it in the end if you manage to shag them and their controlling nature.

JMHO
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