Looking to get some help in trying to cope with some issues but before I post I would like to know some opinions about the following.

What is worse your girlfriend having sex with (one guy) which I define as intercourse others might differ. Or she kissing a few guys once or twice and having her breast's massaged and kissed.

Can someone let me know !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Which is worse..having your left arm cut off..or your right..or maybe a foot?

It isn't about degree, it is about betrayal.

Now, for me..it's sticky. I'm not one to advise because I do not see dating relationships in the same category as I see married relationships..so her *cheating* is showing you her character rather than breaking your covenant...however, the pain and betrayal is still an issue.

Now..about your story?

Hi noodle

Thanks for engaging in some feed back.I neglected to mention that it this was during our dating years not our marriage. But which one of these one would be worst??? Maybe looking at it for a males point of view. Once I get a solid answer Then I will share my problem that Im having now with my marriage of 14 years.

Please can you try and picture whats in my mind.Clearly one of those issues I mentioned before have to be worst than the other,it cant be the left or the right arm.

Help me to ease the pain PLEASE!!!!!!!!!!

Littleman1

LM1..

What I was trying to convey..is that in my opinion, neither is worse..they are both bad. That's why I used an example of cutting off a body part..no good options...one not even marginally better than the other. One may bother you more than the other on a personal level..but that isn't an answer that I or anyone else can give you definatively.

Having an answer will not ease your pain. The root of the pain is betrayal. Betrayal hurts.

Without more info I don't know what else to tell you. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" />

littleman

no one can answer this question without the access to the imformation to make a logical decision/opinion...

and others people anwers aren't as important as your own answer to that question...


pre-marriage behavior with no details...

were you engaged
were you exclusively dating
did she hook up with strangers
did she hook up with friends
did she reveal her activities
did you find out her activities...

etc
etc
etc

and you can't offer the information you have thus far...and take what anyone says as "proof" of anything..

fourteen years married...
how and why does pre-dating activity play any role in today....

gotta give the truth to get back serious feedback..
and also remember that's all it is..
feedback...


ark

hello again

Thanks for the advise. In the next day or two I will collect some of the thoughts that are bothering me and reveal so that I can get some feed back and see why im being troubled from the past. Actually most of the things that are troubling me now are from her past and i do believe it was before us being exclusive,but I need time to dig into my memory and add the dates up and get an exact place in time and see if it adds up.
In general did you ever leave your house close the door and get about five minutes away and think in your mind that did I close the door,well thats the way I feel right now about my wifes past.Stupid or not my feelings are confused and sorrow because I always new that we both lost or virginity to each other,but now somethings are coming in my mind thats makes me wonder if I did close that door or not . can you understand the way I feel. What could have triggered these feelings about the past??? Can this be the beginning of something bad to happen ??

I will explian further let me collect my thoughts.

Littleman1