Before I found out about the A, the OW convinced him to stop using protection. After I found out A, the first question I asked him (cause I knew the OW is so malipulating) "Did you use protection? He said at first and then she told me she was using the pill. And you believe her, did you see the pills, witness her taking them" No

Today where I work, we have a email group (non-private group) which our clients can ask any questions with anyone in the company. Open discussions, if you have a personal question you can enter a private room. I was skimming through and found an email address I never seen before. I just had this gut feeling its the OW trying to disguise herself. All the questions where about male fertility and low sperm count.

My WH and I were trying to have a baby last year without success. The OW has been trying but without sucess, but now after I questioned my WH in January about her trying to get pregnant I hope he is back using protection. Who knows they are living in Las Vegas now.

I went in and made a new account, and emailed her back. Whoever it is I will give them truthful and reliable information. I just have this gut feeling its the OW. I've learned to trust my gut feelings these days. I wished I trusted my instincts awhile back, I might still have my WH.

She is after my in-laws money, my Wh said he will never remarry (I don't know to believe him or not.) If she got pregnant, she would use that child to get what she wants. Its sad, children are to be loved and cherish, not to be used for your own personal gain.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by HopelesslyDevoted2:
<strong>

She is after my in-laws money, my Wh said he will never remarry (I don't know to believe him or not.) If she got pregnant, she would use that child to get what she wants. Its sad, children are to be loved and cherish, not to be used for your own personal gain. </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I "hate" people (woman) who use pregnancy as a "weapon" against others (men). Or use their children as pawns to get back at their S or "for your own personal gain".

Urgh!!!!!

It's selfish and immature. Having children is a blessing and the biggest gifts from God. It's not "playing" dolls and "house". It's a lifetime commiment to another human being. I've been a mom for 19 years (my kids range from 19 to 3 - S-19, S-18, D-11 and D-3) and I know God had a plan with each pregnancy (non of them were "planned").

Urgh!!!!

Sorry about the "vent"

Brown

la la la la.... tell OW he had a vasetomy (sp?). That's why he is having affairs... don't trust 'em men etc etc etc. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" />

Wow, she sounds very similiar to the OW my husband got tangled up with.

Our OW has 4 children, each by a different father, in which she collects over $2000 a month in child support for. I guess she was hoping that my husband would produce # 5, since her oldest child will be 18 soon. She needed to replace his income.

As you said, it's pathetic that some women use having children for monetary gain.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by Ruffled:
<strong> la la la la.... tell OW he had a vasetomy (sp?). That's why he is having affairs... don't trust 'em men etc etc etc. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" /> </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"><img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> ..... or you could tell the OW to practice the method where the OW lies on her back and holds an aspirin between her legs. LOLL!!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

What a stupido OW. I pity the offspring from one who has morphed into such a creature.

L.

Dear HopelesslyD,
It sounds as though you are still attached to your ExH. As I understand, you are now divorced ?
This is a sad place to be in, still longing for someone who has moved onto another life.
Whatever the OW is trying to do about conceiving with your Ex, can no longer be worth worrying about. He may or may not land himself in a pile of trouble and you can't do much about it. If she is a gold digger, he will rue the day he got mixed up with her, but again this is his karma, his consequences for the choices that he made.
If you can detatch yourself from what is going on in his life you would probably be less anxious about it. Afterall there is nothing that you can do! If you still care for him, it must be very painful, so spare yourself the details and don't get involved.
I am divorced some 15 years now, and my Ex didn't waste anytime hooking up with a myriad of other women. He had some nasty experiences (I learned about much after the fact), but now he has a steady mistress (he too has vowed he will never re-marry) and they seem to enjoy one another.
Fair enough... I have better things to do with my life than wonder about his.
What goes around...... you know the saying !
And leave the rest to God.
Wishing you peace. WA