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I pulled this out of another thread I have going. Juke1225 suggested putting this out there for FWW.
Here was my post:
The one ironic thing though is that not going along with her idea for a D makes her resent me. No matter how nice I am about it. She gets all frustrated and says things like "I keep trying to tell you it's over but you just wont listen." then follows that up with "that has been one the biggest problems in our relationship is that you just don't hear what I am saying." Which puts me in an obvious pickle, keep refusing to hear her when she tells me it's over and piss her off or Acknowledge that she is right and make her 'happy' by moving forward with the D. Can't win for losing in that one. Is this some kind of test? Any ideas on how to handle this specific line of discussion with her?
And juke1225's response:
She may be testing you are may also be soo foggy that she just thinks she wants it right now. She will regret it down the road if u do. It is likely that she wants u to care also, like testing the waters if u are willing to take her back or u are done. It's like walking a tight rope. I would ask a FWW that question.
WSs feel uncomfortable around us because we are a reminder of what they r doing. Especially when we don't change and still treat them lovingly. If u were them what would be the seemingly quickest way to escape facing what u have done? You've got it! Divorce! That is the way most of them are thinking and it usually changes when the chemical funk wears off. u just need to buy time IMO. I am no expert. just basing these thoughts on my WW's behavior and what she has said after opening up.
Any further thoughts from FWW or anybody else for that matter?
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