</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by LINY:
<strong> </font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by FamilyMatters:

My wife came home 5 hours later and agreed to M counseling, writing a No Contact letter and saving our M.</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">FM...Am I reading another one of your stories? Did I have three beers tonight?? Did I really read this???

!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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For now, this is all I have to say! </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">

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Liny,
YESSSSSSSSSSS,
the reports of my M's death have been greatly exaggerated.
<img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />
We're getting a pulse
We're getting a pulse
what's that?
Movement...I SEE MOVEMENT...
vitals look promising
blood pressure is rising

The Alien has left the building!
We might see a happy ending afterall...

Yep, she came home a new womam! She's more confident, more focused and most of all more the woman she used to be...I haven't seen her this open, honest and positive about our M in years.

I'm printing out the POJA, EN's Questionnaire as we speak. We're going to do one a night. No need to over do it all it once.

If this is a dream, please don't bother to wake me. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />

Ha! EXCELLENT!!!!!!!!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Well, if I know FM, and as a former longtime lurker, (hopefully I'm not jumping the gun here).....

Welcome "Home" Mrs. FM!!!!!

You are certainly welcome here on this site! And more than welcome in *your* home with your kids and FM.

There will be pain--oh, yes, there will be pain. There will also be some things you *need* to do--for you, and for your M and fanily. Please don't see them as demands or ultimatums--they are your guide to a recovering M with your H and kids, who, from all of his posts, so adore you and are so in love with you. You need to follow these. He will not be hurt again.

Please follow these guidelines. They have helped your husband in more ways than you can imagine!

I hope I wasn't too agressive in my welcome. I know how much pain FM has been through. I also know how much pain you have been through as well.

I (we) hope and pray for the best of you both!!!!
God bless!

familyman -

Glad to hear that she is back again. Yep, start working on those EN's. And remember that they say that recovery is the hardest part, so be good to yourself.

Be sure to post on recovery too. Lots of folks there going thru the same feelings.

FM! Somehow I missed that post (been a little busy--gonna go look for it now). Doin' the happy dance for ya! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

FM I'm happy for you both ! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Nice to hear the good guys getting a break occasionally.

Your tale makes me ache that we are so far from that point BUT its good in one way, 'cos I obviously still want to be there even after all the pain and grief !

Where is this post you speek of ??? I am goin to belive this now that FM confirmed , cause LINY might have just been past his 2 beer LIMIT !!LOL <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

FM, I am aliitle upset THIS IS FUN news and you didn't post on my FUN thread... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> LOL (kidding )

VERY HAPPY FOR YA BOTH !!!!!!

Oh and thank you for your kind words on Arks thread to me ,, I hope something I say can be of use 2 you ...

AND MRS FM,,, we are real nice people would love to have ya here !

FM.....I must have missed your post as well! I'm glad LINY tossed it up there.

Mind if my DD and I do a little Spongebob for ya! I'm ready, I'm ready, I'm ready!!!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

I'm sooooo glad to read this post. You have once again shown that "yup, these MB principles work". I know there is still a ways to go but finding this out early on Labor Day makes me smile. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

If Ms. FM is able to read/post, I too want to welcome her. I've started saving posts for my WW to read when/if we get to where you're at.

Again, glad to read this one. I'm very happy for you and Ms. FM and your children.......

Good Luck and God Bless (and keep posting if you've got the time)........LS

Mrs FM -

If you are reading (and I hope that you are) I too want to say, please come join us, if you want to that is.

Your husband is a very well loved man around here, and for good reason. He is a great guy, very creative, very tenacios (sp) and he LOVES you! So by default you have to be a great gal too! Right?

Anyway welcome home to your home from me. (is that too cheesy?)

Ok it's time for Mrs LINY (aka Brown to chime in.

I also have a hellva spouse!!!!

I'm so glad you are coming to "truths" and I will continue to pray for you *ALL* (FM, Mrs. FM and the kiddies).

FM, you are an amzing person ... this isn't the 1st time I've said this. I'm so glad you've found what the basics to life ... and you are convicted by them. You and your wife are (and can continue to be) an inspiration to the world we *LIVE* in. Please be reassured (Mr and Mrs FM) we all will be there for you !!!!!!!!!!!!

((((((((((((MY FRIENDS)))))))))))))))

I have been reluctant to post a thread beause my heads been spinning a 100 MPH for the last few days. My W also requested I NOT post a thread right away, and I allow things to sink in. No ticker tape parades, no parties, no jets skywriting her return, just a quiet, calm, commited return to what she calls; her rigthful place in life.

Friday my wife returned and I wasn't expecting it all. She agreed to No contact, she agreed to the NO Contact Letter, she agreed to counseling, she agreed to agreeing our M is beautiful and she missed being HOME. I was apprehensive, I didn't want yet another false recovery. False recoveries are worst than being in Plan B anyday, but I believe she's ready now. We took the EN questionnaire and it was her decision, she intiated it, and she actually wrote down her needs. I'm not in this alone anymore. She is being open and honest and forthcoming. We are excited about the future and determined to make this an even better M.

It's amazing how open and honest things have been lately. My W actually thanked me for exposing her A! Can you imagine that? She is now in a place mentally where she actually believes that was the best thing that ever happened. She also forgives me for my LB's. As the fog lifted she understood my pain, my struggle and her own plight. I will let her comment on the specifics as I'm sure she will do a much better job than me. I feel relieved finally, still a tinge of apprehension. I still pinch myself wondering is this just another dip in the rollercoaster. My children are happy and smiling. I think there is a period of adjustment for all. We will survive. The journey isn't over, now it's onto making our M "Affair Proof". I do not want Infidelity to show its face again in our M and whatever steps we need to take to renew our bond, connection, passion and love WE will pursue.

3isa/Liny/Brown/Lost/Believer/Bob/Weaver/Pepper
I wanted to tell the world, but it's been a very emotional journey. I didn't even tell my mom until today. We've been quietly embracing and sharing our fears, pains and dreams for the future. GOD is good, ALWAYS. Remember guys, I screwed up many moons ago. It's taken me 4 years to get her back to a point where she is whole-heartedly in my M with me. You are looking at 2 very reformed spouses and for me it was worth it!

Thanks for your prayers and please continue including me in your thoughts. My W is back...... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> NOW WHAT? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> Love her I guess huh? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

<small>[ September 08, 2004, 03:12 AM: Message edited by: FamilyMatters ]</small>

FM,

I am so happy for you. I don't know what else to say. This is such an inspiration for all of us. I wish you the best of luck, the best of everything, and many prayers.
Joe