WH has on-off relationship of some sort. First he thought he loved her, now he just cares (his words). My MC said we have to build new good memories to replace old bad ones, ie do things together, spend time talking, etc. He agreed he would go with me to MC next week, but said, although he loves me, he doesn't know if he loves me enuf to be married. It's more he wants to stay married to keep the family unit together. Kids are all grown. OW never makes a pest of herself, which I wish she would. I am not threatened by her in any way except she seems to have my husband's attention. I don't think it wold last, but I think I am at the end of my rope. I need a decision badly, even if it is divorce, which I never did want. Should I keep trying? If so, how? Thanks for any help anyone can give me. I'm living on Xanax and want to stop.