Anyone out there have the WW move out and ask you for help? I know in SAA, the guy helped his WW move out.

How does that feel? I cannot imagine it feeling to good. What about the OM? Should he help? He is stronger than me and with my weight loss, I could use his back. I guess if he is not around, it will be another feather in my cap and against him. Hmmmm.

I would love to hear some stories on how it goes. And any advice as well.

I helped my WW move her stuff out. I just didn't want OM in my home or anywhere near it. That thought makes me ill. Helping her was weird. She kept looking at me and smiling when we carried the heavier things. It was like a flashback to old moving memories. She even called me babe on accident and caught herself right after. My experience was fine, but it was after she came out of psycho cold b$%^# mode. Don't move with that jerk. Don't let him come to your home. i wouldn't.

I helped my WW move her stuff out. I just didn't want OM in my home or anywhere near it. That thought makes me ill. Helping her was weird. She kept looking at me and smiling when we carried the heavier things. It was like a flashback to old moving memories. She even called me babe on accident and caught herself right after. My experience was fine, but it was after she came out of psycho cold b$%^# mode. Don't move with that jerk. Don't let him come to your home. i wouldn't. You help her move the stuff out of your home and OM can help move it in I guess.

Whoops! The second post is the full post.

I will not have the phlegm bag in our house. He has destroyed enough.

I am going to fight like heck to keep the house as long as I can.

I have no idea how she is going to move and watch the kids 2 nights/week while she is at work.

I need her out so I can start my life. I cannot believe she will not stop seeing him and tell me that he is not the reason for the seperation. Crazy alien foggy jerk of a wife.

My thought on OM in house was, "If he stole my wife why wouldn't he steal something else?". Just sickened me at the thought of it.

Are you buying her out and keeping the house or selling?

"I cannot believe she will not stop seeing him and tell me that he is not the reason for the seperation." Yeah, my WW always tried to say that OM had nothing to do with her leaving. Yeah fricking right! She only started talking bad about our marriage after she had a crush on the [censored]. The timeline of her "unhappiness" goes right along with meeting OM. He also invited her to live with him after having sex once. He also helped manipulate her mind into thinking our marriage was sh$t. Now she knows he is sh$t and misses our old life together. Go figure.

CTH - Let me start by saying hello and also how much better you sound these days than from your earlier postings. You sound much stronger and more in control.

This is a topic that is very dear to me as I am going down that path some time in the next 4 or so weeks. From what I have been able to gather from others on the site, you can help WW move out. As for allowing OM into your house, well that's a very personal decision because you are the only one that will know how you will respond / feeel / act around him. Me personally (not a violent person) but I would probably be unable to be civil to OM. Good luck and let me know how you go!!!

My plan is to help her move out and not help her move in. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> Not sure if that will work however, so we shall see. I have spoken to the OM at length on one occasion. I tried to talk him out of the A. He was a chicken and said only if my WW told him so. What a crap-bag.

RM, I may sound more in control, but it is only due to the anger I now feel. I think I am still hurting, but now I am mostly mad and looking forward to having some time to myself that I can help myself with.

We are going to try and maintain 2 housholds for a few months. I figure we will start to loose around $400/month. After about 3 months, we have to pull the plug on the house and make sure it gets sold w/in a total of 6 months. The money we make on the house will pay off the new debt, and the balance will go towards her car, which I then get to pay off!

Anybody looking for a 1800sq ft on a 1/2 acre in a BUffalo NY Suburb?

I have no idea if this is the best thing for our M, but I cannot negtiate anything with my WW any longer while she is still having an A. Hell, she is in a relationship with him and I am the one she is ashamed of!

I will keep you posted and let you know. Our goal is moving out 15SEP04.

Peace

CTH - I feel your pain brother (as do many others here). I think the fact that you have a plan is a good sign that you are thinking things through.
On the anger front, that is normal, well at least in my case. I find that some days I have it all under control, and on others it gets the better of me. But expect things improve there over time.
As for trying to talk him out of the A, well that really is only half the solution as your WW needs to also want out. Don't give up though as others will testify to the fact that they do take some time to come out of the fog.

I am sorry to hear about the finacial problems that you are likely to face as a result of this, it doesn't really seem fair.

Lastly, I can understand your not wanting WS in the house whilst the A is still going on, hence your moving to plan B. Remember, you can only control yourself and I can't stress this next bit enough. Make sure you schedule lots activities to help you (and keep you busy!!). Giving yourself the space is great, just make sure you fill it with things you enjoy doing and people that will help you.. Be strong and stick to your guns <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

<small>[ September 08, 2004, 10:29 PM: Message edited by: RenaissanceMan ]</small>

Help her move out (and in <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> ) IF you want her back.
Let her free to freely come back... She'll remember that, that sign of unselfish and 'unconditional' love... and the more difficult she'd find it nowadays, the more chances to get her back...

Help her move out (and in <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> ) IF you want to be good FRIENDS (for your kids' sake)... as to mother of your kids...
Than you can start your (new) life.


"Cannot imagine it feeling to good"?
Cannot imagine how strong and self-confident you could feel doing it? ...