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WW is continuing to contact OM via text messaging. I have known this for a while. Both of our cell phones are on one account that is paid by me. Im trying real hard to plan A and 180 but the lack of respect is surmounting and killing me let alone my kids.
Do i turn the TM off or not? is this a LB?
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Hmmm,
I understand your situation exactly and the pain of it. I'm in about the same place. LB, I'm not sure, but probably. Aside from that, tactically I think you may not want to. If they are going to make contact, they will find a way to do it. At least you can keep tabs on it with virtually no effort as things are now. I'd work on N/C somehow, but at least if contact is through that phone, you know what's going on.
Just my opinion.
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I'd turn it off. Probably the whole phone too. I would have trouble knowing my money was providing them a means of contact.
Is it a LB? Probably depends on who you ask, I'd say no.
She'll probably be pissed but if she wants to talk to OM I'd make sure it took a little more effort on her part.
God Bless
Doug
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It all in the presentation... dear...was looking on line at the different packages offered... since we never text eachother... I just had it discontinued... it will save a little bit of moola... so that's never a bad thing.... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> ARK
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Thanks ark....again
the roller coaster continues....im trying to stay strong but its really hard when there is such blatant disrespect and disregard for me and our children. My daughter told her she was eveil yesterday.......
She just dosent get it
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JAH:
Try 2 remember that "staying strong," particularly for your kids, is mandatory, regardless of your W's actions.
It's just really cool that it helps when dealing with ongoing contact. Fight fire with water (or disrespect with compassion and empathy). Not easy, but nothing that's truly rewarding is.
No, she doesn't get it. She won't for a while, and she won't because she's coerced, either. She'll get it when she does, of her own volition.
-ol' 2long
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Just a Husband,
IF your going to turn it off:
I would tell her BEFORE you cancel that you can't accept her being in contact with OM and you won't pay for her to have the privilege to continue doing so.
Then make the call.
That way your not sneaking OR seeming to be vindictive or childish.
However, isn't this phone a way you CAN keep track of what she's doing?
(I was thinking much as Nemo was about this).
If you get rid of this avenue of information (without her agreeing NC and actually being ready and willing to follow it) then she will Most Likely just find a different method of contact.
Unfortunately this will be one that YOU Don't have any means to monitor.
Just wondering.
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