I can't handle this anymore! I give up she can have him. I sit here and just cry, it is not fair. He pushed me out of town last weekend so I hired a PI and caught him. I confronted him and told everyone. He hates me and I am so weak.I am tired of all the lies, of crying, and the pain. I can not go on. I need the pain to stop.This has to end somehow. How does anyone continue with all this hurt? How do you move on?

One moment at a time...what you are feeling right now is probably about the worst it gets, so you just have to make it through this moment. You can't go on with this degree of pain forever, I PROMISE, it will ease up. ((((hugs))))

It is miserable at first, but does get better. If you are completely unable to cope, please get some anti-depressants.

{{{{{{kidsmom}}}}}}}

There is no way anyone here can minimize your pain. It's VERY real and hurts all the way to the core of who you are. I'm so sorry.

BUT... even in the darkest of night, there is still hope.

I know you're in pain beyond anything you ever thought you could live through. But...breathe and take life with one tiny step at a time.

God, give her the strengh and comfort she needs right now. Be her hope.

Believe in hope. Believe that he can wake up from this fog. Believe he can come back to you. Believe....

I soo sorry.

2scared

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by believer:
<strong> It is miserable at first, but does get better. If you are completely unable to cope, please get some anti-depressants. </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Nevermind.... I misread.... I thought YOU are pregnant... but it says the OW is.

Pep

<small>[ September 10, 2004, 07:18 AM: Message edited by: Pepperband ]</small>

Hi 2kidsmom,

how are you holding up?? i just read most of your posts to understand where things are for you. to me, it sounds like maybe a good thing happened here. Now the truth is out, right? this may be exactly what was needed to shake things up a bit.

first of all i have to ask a potentially painful question. is it possibly that your H got the OW pregnant, could she be actually carring his baby? or is it possible that she just does not know who's baby it is? i only ask this because i believe the it is essential that all cards are laid out on the table.

from the sounds of it you were pretty surprised when your H first left. that must of hurt terribly. i am very sorry for your pain.

when most people come here, one of the first things they are challanged to do is to look at themselves and their own actions. do you really know your H's top emotional needs (ENs), and how well were you meeting them? this is NOT saying your H had/has reasons for having an A. A spouse should never have an A but a BS can take this opportunity to take a good look at themselves and see if there is room for improvement and then implement changes. I know i am not very good at giving this advice here, afterall i am a WS not a BS, but I don't think you have been given much direction here so I am trying.

old-timers - i sure wish some of you would jump in here!!!

should 2kidsmom be trying to do a true plan A now? i know your H has moved out but that does not mean you are in plan B.

honestly i would think that counsoling with the Harleys would be very good for you. I know money is a concern but if there is anyway... it could make a big difference.

mostly I wanted to just reach out and give you a MB hug. i am very sorry for your pain. we care here, keep posting.

Karen