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It sure seems that way when I read a lot of these posts. So many WWs seem to be making zero effort to come home, but a lot of WHs seem to stay around. Anyone have statistics on that?
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don't have statitics for you but i am a WW that found my way home. (we never physically seperated).
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What FL said--same here. btw, hi FL!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />
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Juke, Shirley Glass wrote a little about this. She wrote that men tend to be better than women at compartmentalizing their feelings, more often able to love the one they're with. Women are more likely to have to choose loyalties and stick with them.
The rare thing, around here at least, is the WW who was having a "replacement" affair, rather than the "add-on" variety.
I think Hope4future and KiwiJ had replacement-type As.
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It seems to me that we have more WW's here trying to rebuild their marriages than we do WH's.If we do have a WH,more often than not IMO,they leave here,still addicted to the homewreckers and don't post anymore.
I can think of about five or more WH's just since I have been here that briefly posted about their A's and then left after all the heat they received here about ending it.
It's an interesting question.I may just do a little survey myself tonight and see just how many WH's and WW's there are posting these days.
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If I remember correctly, Shirley Glass also wrote that woman tend to detach from their M before an A while men tend to detach during the A. That might be a reason that it seems like WW's have a tough time making it back home.
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I agree with graycloud about campartmentalizing emotions and stronger loyalties. Possibly, the "nurture" part of the WW keeps her with the OM because she doesn't want to hurt him (she's more emotionally attached to him that H at that point anyway). She's already hurt H, so what's the point of hurting someone else too? Especially someone who is meeting her ENs, someone she is incredibly emotionally invested in at the moment.
I know you were doen the other day, I hope you are feeling better. ((()))
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