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Senn WW up at school........she looks so bad....skin and bones 95 lbs size 00 use to be 127 size 7 ,,,,It made me so sad.......she can't be happy................someone needs to save this girl...........she is going to die
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What was the result of the hearing a few days ago?
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Could she be doing drugs?
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It must be so hard seeing someone you love in such bad shape. I have been reading all your posts and I think she is going to have to crash hard before she comes out of it and it sounds like she is pretty close to that point.
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The hearing went ok but we have to wait for the results in the mail....could take a week......My WW TOLD ME WHEN i SEEN HER THE SHE IS EATING....that she thinks it is stress.....( no ****)I do not think she is on drugs.......I do think it is stress.......I hope she can wake up out of this fog before it kills her........I told D that she needs to talk to mommy about it.....being so skinny.........WW let me take D to high school football game and had me pick her up an hour earlier so I can feed D,,,,,,,,,
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Frank,
I thought you were going to Plan B, what happened?
Please do not put your D in the middle by asking her to talk to you WW about her eating/looking thin issue. This is not good for your D. Your W is obviously not taking care of herself, but she is a big girl. I also suspect drugs.
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Frank -
I very strongly agree with Ladysings, please do not bring this up to your DD. DD cannot be worrying about her mother, it is way too much for a little girl to take on.
Please tell DD, that her mother is just going through some stress right now and will gain back her weight soon, and this is nothing for DD to worry about.
Kids need to be sheltered from worrying about their parents, it is just something they are not capable of handling. It could cause your daughter to start having serious emotional problems.
Take care Frank, we are all hoping the very best for you and your little one.
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Sorry Frank, but it sounds like you W may have a drug problem. I've seen people do the rapid weigh loss thing before.
You said OM is a seedy character right? Do you think he uses drugs? Think about it, if your W chose to leave your M to be with him maybe she'd sdopted his lifestyle as well. Lifestyle and R's go hand in hand. Keep your D out of the loop of dealing with this issue. She's just a baby and cannot control or help her mother do anything. Intense drug use decreases appetite.
EDIT) Your W may be depressed...but I'm thinking its drugs because of the COMPANY she keeps.
<small>[ September 11, 2004, 08:31 AM: Message edited by: FamilyMatters ]</small>
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I wouldn't jump to the drug conclusion too fast. I myself went from 200 lbs to 147 in about a month and a half. The M&M diet (Marlboros & Maxwell house).
My wife lost a bunch of weight too.
Stress, guilt, no sleep and the fact that she knows she screwed up are all contributing factors to your W's weight loss.
Don't use the kids. Tell the kids she's not feeling well. They know when stuff isn't right and they'll figure it out.
If you're concerned about her let her know.
God Bless
Doug
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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by d_rose:
<strong> I wouldn't jump to the drug conclusion too fast. I myself went from 200 lbs to 147 in about a month and a half. The M&M diet (Marlboros & Maxwell house).
</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Doug is right, but Frank does OM use drugs, I mean from what you know??
I just do not trust OM and his lifestyle...I remember you saying he was a creep or something.
FM
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FM's concerns are legit. If the OM is doing drugs then it becomes a concern for your kid's safety. If you bring this up to your wife be prepared for her to be pissed.
You bringing up her using drugs might translate, for her, into....
She is having affair because she is on drugs. Which is another way for you to say that her feelings aren't real, blah, blah, blah.
God Bless
Doug
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I know for a fact that it is not drugs.......I know she does not eat at all some days D said........trying to inpress OM.....I called WW cell phone today to ask D what is the name of the music book she needs is because D told me earlier that they are going to the mall......well D calls me at 5:00 pm and tells me that mommy is mad because I called her cell phone......She said never use her cell phone because om might fine out..........Hes got the wife and he is the one that is jealous......imature peace of **** ...
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Frank, just keep calling her cellphone. She is not justified in asking you that. Keep calling - within reason - so you can put pressure on the affair.
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lol..........cool.........i got her two way # also she does noyt know that........he can here the conversation........
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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by frankd: <strong> lol..........cool.........i got her two way # also she does noyt know that........he can here the conversation........ </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"><img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> trouble........in paradise~~~~~~~ <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />
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ML I was just talking to Meagan ........She told me that WW and girl next store and Meagan went to sub way....D said that WW did not even get anything to eat.........D told me that WW and OM GOT INTO ANOTHER FIGHT TODAY AND ww TOLD d NOT TO TELL DADDY..... wonder why.......I know 3 months ago while me and WW were in counceling waiting for d WW told me that they never fight and I tolg her that I heard of them fighting alot and told her the insidents.... i wonder if that is why she told D not to say anything............or because of the hearing wensday......I can't believe WW is not eating right after 7 months.....Dam she looks bad she can't be happy......WW is sapose to call me monday while OM is at work....WW don't even let next store neighbor 18 yr old GF or boss know she is talking to me.........
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When are you going into Plan B? It seems like a good time to do it while she is having trouble with OM.
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after hearing next week.......sunday........I will give her the letter..........
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Well. It sounds like anorexia. Anorexia is a control issue. It is something that your WW controls and she doesn it to appeal to her OM (even if it doesn't).
Don't know if knowing that helps you or not. Stress is a contributing factor to anorexia. That and dysfunctional relationships.
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you might be right.........it might can that kill you........
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