Hi shopsalone,
Well,in my case,my WH is somewhere in the Canadian territory,most likely with the homewrecker,galavanting around without a care in the world while me and our two daughters are waiting expectantly to see if this man has found another job yet.See,he was fired three times within the last year since he met the homewrecker.So my WH is a classic example of NOT coming back to the marriage.He is choosing to be up there with a bunch of cronies and the homewreckers parents because they all acccept and support what he is doing.I mean,it's all for "love".PUKE.
My WH's life has spiraled out of control since he got involved with the homewrecker but he just keeps on in the same direction because he is selfish.So,signs that you may be looking for that your WH isn't coming back is: staying away from the home,continued contact with OW,less involvement with the/his family,children and/or home,less time taking responsibility for anything,hurtful statements,forgetfulness(about birthdays,special occasions,bills,etc),refusal to work on marital problems and seek counseling and so on.
In answer to your question,will the WS do this to the next person they are with? Most likely.Until the WS addresses the problems in the first marriage and within themselves,primarily,they are doomed to repeat the same mistakes,just carrying it over to the next person.My WH is also an example.He was emotionally involved with a woman many years ago when my first daughter was very little.He never addressed his incessant need for admiration,affection and attention from other women so it will be a void he cannot fill up,even with the happy homewrecker.At some point in their disgusting realtionship,she too will find this out.They are still on their honeymoon though. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />
So,I am sorry if this sounds a little sarcastic but I am done with this mess.I have been at this for almost a year and this is the very month in which the first phone call was made to the homewrecker.SO we have come full cirlce.I still cannot belive it has gone on this long.
Anyway,you don't have to let go so much as get your life in order as best you can,take care of yourself,eat right,get plenty of sleep,see old friends,take up some new hobbies,stuff like that.There are WS's that do come back to the marriage and there are those that don't.In either scenario,you need to be able to endure whatever comes your way.Keep reading and posting here.We will help you.
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