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i called up wh whores cousin and told her the truth. wh called up and pissed is putting it lightly. i told him i loved him and wanted to save the marriage but he was having none of that.he told me he loved ow more than me and he was never coming home that i pushed him away from me, that he was never going to be faithful that if i f'd this one up he would just find another one.i am so hurt. i told him that was all i neede to hear to finally let go of him. i told him calmly to file for divorce and i was cutting all contact with him. he said oh now your letting go? i said yes and hung up the phone.i have been crying since then although not as bad as i would have with no anti d's. what the hell happened? its over with he loves her more then me.
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Sounds like a typical reaction to exposure. I have yet to complete full exposure myself. Dont actually know why im waiting. I think im afraid of hearing the same thing.
Everyone on here says that when first exposed they are really angry but it expedites the end of the A in the long run.
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Just typical WS rage at having their fantasy exposed. Consider it like taking a foul smelling cough medication that will help you in the long run.
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Shelly -
This is just the same thing they all say when exposed. I wouldn't even spend 30 seconds thinking about it or crying about it.
Stick with the MB program, girl.
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this stupid fool of a man came over here with a hickey on his neck talking about how he wants a divorce that it didnt feel right between us anymore, thats why he keeps doing what he does, that he wasnt going to be faithful no matter what.we talked and talked and he said that to give him until friday with no talking to each other to see what he really wants. i said its hard for me to pull away and let you fall on your face. i just cant do this anymore. im so tired of being hurt why do i love this stupid man so much? i want to divorce him and find someone else. its never going to be the same. if he really loved me as much as he says he does he wouldnt do this. maybe i should let go.
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A hickey??? how old is he?
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Shelly,
This is so typical, they all say the same things. You should have heard the things my W said to me after I exposed her A and called OM. WHEW! Please believe me. You just pulled the plug on his fantasy land and now he's upset, angry, out of his head, and things with OW are not as rosey as you might think. He came over there with a hickey huh? That tells me one thing, OW is scared of losing him and trying to make you jealous enough to let him go. He's in the fog, don't listen to anything he says. Follow your plan, I know this is painful and please believe me we've all been thru it or are going thru it right now. I hope you're okay and hope you believe what we're telling you. Everything he says is typical fog talk when exposed. He sounds like he really means it, he thinks he really means it, but he does NOT.
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well everyone knows what happens when shelly gets angry. I AM NOT TAKING HIM BACK NO MATTER WHAT!!!!!! i shut down his cell phone and this time its staying off. ill be damned if hes going to be talking to whores with a phone thats under my name. he better stay the hell away from me and let me heal, cause i swear if he comes near me im going to knock his brains out.im done for now, you can call it plan b, c, or d but thats it. #@!$ him.
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Yikes Shelly, are you really done? Or is he going to sweet talk you back onto the rollercoaster, just like my WH used to do?
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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by shelly_3:
<strong> well everyone knows what happens when shelly gets angry. I AM NOT TAKING HIM BACK NO MATTER WHAT!!!!!! i shut down his cell phone and this time its staying off. ill be damned if hes going to be talking to whores with a phone thats under my name. he better stay the hell away from me and let me heal, cause i swear if he comes near me im going to knock his brains out.im done for now, you can call it plan b, c, or d but thats it. #@!$ him. </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Sometimes I think that's the only thing that will slice thru the fog.
Take care of yourself.
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is that what mr. b used to do to you? i just want off this ride its getting ridiculous already.coming over here with hickeys like a damn kid. he already called twice trying to ask why i shut off his phone and i told him im done and to go f himself. i need to work on me, do things i want to do, not play these juvenile games anymore. he told me earlier that he wants to keep me in his life that he wants to be able to call me and talk. i laughed in his stupid face. i told him he was the biggest fool ive ever met and couldnt believe i had married him. i said you either stand next to me as my h, or you dont have me at all. thats when he said he wanted till friday to file, but i cant stand him no more. how can you be with someone you cant respect?
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shelly...
I hear you loud and clear! I am beginning to feel the same way you are right now. I don't want my WH back at this point and don't know what miracle that could happen that would make me change my mind. He keeps calling me now and being so sweet....but yet continuing the A. It makes me sick!!!!!! He's not even attrative to me anymore. He thinks by being nice and clearing his head that now we can just get divorced and be the best of friends. YUK!!!!!!!!!!!!! I have friends who care about me and treat me with respect....why would I want him as a friend...someone who stabs me in the back and lies and cheats...that's NOT a friend!
I'm here if you need to talk...I'm in the same place you are!!!!
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thanks tree! you know, i was thinking about you and your sitch and how your wh said he wanted to be friends, are these ws's stupid or what? how the hell can we be friends after you tried to destroy me? i wont let that happen. i talked to his mom today for the first time and told her the situation. i thought i would get the brushoff but she was very nice and very pissed off on my behalf. she has promised to give him an earful when she gets a hold of him. not that it matters anymore. im fighting mad right now and i hope i stay that way. anything is better than misery. i covered up his name on my arm today. got 2 pretty roses over it.
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shelly - Hang in there girl. These are very rough times for you. Try to stay calm and take care of YOU.
Your WH is not there for you right now. So you need to take care of you.
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thanks believer. i feel sick and nauseous at the thought of coming face to face with my h or even talking to him. i just want to heal. why did this stupid man keep me hanging on by a thread all this time? im so tired, but i dont think ill be able to sleep tonite.
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well, i guess i did sleep good last night. its time to stop all this insanity. i feel like im in gradeschool fighting with another girl over a stupid guy.i want to say thanks to all my MB friends, i think i would have really gone crazy if i didnt have this board. well, time to get ready for work.see ya!
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Shelly - You will get better and better. It takes time. I am happier now than ever. Whew! Just getting rid of all the pain feels great.
Start having your own life and doing things for you. Put him on the back burner for awhile.
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