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#1185056 09/13/04 11:17 PM
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my husband works in DE during the week, and I live in GA. I can't afford a P.I, or a plane ticket, and I don't know anyone up there. All I know is OW's name( she changed her cell ph#). I'd really like to know how old she is, what she looks like, if she's married,has kids, how long it's been going on, what she does for a living. Any ideas?

#1185057 09/14/04 12:24 AM
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I understand your desire to know some details. After all, how do you digest and then do battle against what you don't know anything about. Here is a rather unorthodox idea. Have someone (or a couple of someones if all 4 are too much to put on someone) keep your kids for a couple of days, take a few days vacation time/sick leave/whatever and drive to Delaware if you can't afford a plane ticket. You will obviously want to know where he stays when he is there. Perhaps it's a hotel but maybe it's her place. Go wherever he stays and wait until his car arrives and then just follow and watch. If that involves a bit much, there are so many things you can do online these days with just some basic information about a person. Good luck.

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Thanks, DAF. Unfortunately, there is noone I could leave my kids with for that long. Will you give some specifics about internet research?

#1185059 09/14/04 11:49 AM
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elocin,

There's alot of search sites on the internet to get info on anyone. Just an example of one,,,
Discreetresearch.com

It's not going to show you what she looks like but you can get the rest of the information. I'm not going to tell you all about how "she doesn't matter--concentrtate on your H and your marriage." I think you probably already know that. Only you know how many details you need.

Is the affair ongoing? Is he with the OW? Or still seeing her?

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I suspect the affair is still ongoing, but I have no way to know for sure. His company pays for his hotel while he's up there, and I know she's at least been in his room because I found a love note she wrote him on hotel stationary but their staff is very tight lipped.
Thanks for the link, Nerlycrazy, but my printer is down and they require you to print, sign and fax a release before they'll do anything.


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