Well I don't know where to start with all the lies. My H and I are 21 years old and have been married for a year and a half. In May I found out my H was having an EA. He still won't admit to it, but I know that there was atleast an EA and possably a PA. Well I read a surviving an affair and his needs her needs and in doing that I've realized that he doens't take care of any thing really. He is an amazing person that I care about but he is a horrible H.

To make matters worse I've made a new friend. Yes now I am the one with the EA. I don't want to be with my H and I don't know if I want to be with OM either. I do know that my H doesn't show love and that I'm not happy with him. OM makes me very happy and I enjoy him very much. I almost want to just take a break from it all. I'm thinking about leaving my H with a note about why I'm not happy and going to stay with family. If he's not willing to put some effort into this marriage why waste the rest of my life with him?

sorry to hear about your troubles.....

ITs very easy to have an A when you find out that your spouse is. If you really love your H as you say you do you will stop trying to fill the void with the OM.

The OM is not going to make you feel better in the long run. It will just ruin your self-confidence and chances for your M to recover.

You have taken the first giant step in admitting that you are wrong .... take the next step and just stop.

180,

You already know about affairs.

You've read this site and read the posts.

You know the hurt and devastation.

With this knowledge, why would you willingly enter one? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" />