<small>[ November 22, 2004, 04:18 PM: Message edited by: joe c. ]</small>

Joe,

How did you tell her to contact you in your Plan B letter? And do you have an attorney?

Have you made a decision about the house? What do you want to do about it?

<small>[ November 22, 2004, 04:17 PM: Message edited by: joe c. ]</small>

sheeesh, I agree with you. First off, I would suggest waiting a few days before you reply. Then ask her to send you a list of items she wants and you can drop them off at her mothers.

As far as the house goes, you could refer her to your attorney. Let her contact the attorney and he can make her a ridiculous offer. What do ya think?

P.S. I would be as PLEASANT as possible in your email! And then when she replies, don't respond to her.

<small>[ November 22, 2004, 04:16 PM: Message edited by: joe c. ]</small>

<small>[ November 22, 2004, 04:14 PM: Message edited by: joe c. ]</small>

Your woman friend is right that many women do try for many years to let their men know how unhappy they are in the marriage and their men take it as simple nagging. But she is dead wrong in telling you that "be thankful and have respect for WS that she had the courage to come back for 2 months and try recapture the feelings..." because the true purpose was to justify to herself that she tried but it was already too late. True courage would have been if your WW had ended her affair with the OM, and wrote him a NC letter while still feeling a strong desire to be with him. THAT is courage.

As far as your WW is concerned, the odds are against her and the OM if they do go ahead and get married. Remember that the forces that brought them together are the same forces that will tear them apart. For example, the OM [and your W] have demonstrated that they are incapable of keeping their married vows. Sooner or later one of them will become the BS, and my money is on your WW.

And lastly, is that you do yourself no good in dwelling on what your WW and the OM are doing. The more you dwell and find out what they are doing, the more you'll lose your love for her. Concentrate on doing things that will make you an attractive alternative. Two of those things that come to mind are taking care of yourself physically [moreso if you've let yourself go] and volunteer some of your time to worthwhile causes [big brothers, make a wish, etc.]. The latter will help you to appreciate the fact that there are others who are less fortunate than you, and make you thank God on what you do have.