Well it has been a long 20 months without husband. The thought of sex with any other man has made me sick to my stomach this whole time.

Well today, SUDDENLY, men started looking good to me - and lots of them! All day I kept noticing their eyes, muscles, dimples, smiles, and other things.

I was at work, and then came home and it continued. I mean, it was almost like being a guy where you think about it 24/7. Has that happened to anyone else?

Sheesh, I hope I don't go wild and be thinking these thoughts all of the time. I might not get anything done. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />

believer..good for you!

I haven't lost my sex drive..don't know if that's good or bad because..ya know..there's no one here to take care of that itch but me and that's just not the same <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

You know what you REALLY have to be careful of, don't you? Now that you're starting to notice, you're going to send out a vibe and THEY'RE going to notice. I really do think men notice that. You will exude confidience and sensuality. So have fun! But be careful!

Good for you Believer! You deserve to be happy!

Hmmmm. I want to be happy, but not crazy. And these are men that I work with, and never thought of that way before. Hope I don't go wild - but I wanna tell you, they were ALL looking pretty good today.

Have you checked out the masturbation thread??? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

I can only say that, I have a very long menstrual cycle, and it is quite powerful, so there is no SF for us during that time, and during my cycle I think about it, and after, I'm tearing ST's clothes off him. (he hates that. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> )

20 months, yeah, that is definitely longer than my cycle. I'm guessing your recovering, and this is a good sign.

KY

believer,

Yep, this happens to me. Our last married encounter was Dec. 9, 2002 <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> and before that he has his PA in 1999 followed by several ONS/EA's, so it was "now and then" even before our last encounter! It has been a while!

At first, I literally had no desire for men, sex or a relationship of any kind--just wanted to survive, finalize the divorce, give a better life to my kids, and make wiser choices as an adult. I was so focused on those things that time went by! Suddenly, one day at the grocery store I noticed that I was noticing MEN! They were EVERYWHERE!!! Cute ones with flirty eyes or nice behinds or long legs to just appreciate.

I was a little upset (as in confused) and felt a little uncomfortable with the fact that I even FELT that way--not that I did anything but it was unusual to notice other men. So, I gave it some thought and realized I was a single lady, and this was my heart's and body's way of saying, "Hey Baaaaby--that part of you ain't dead yet either!" <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />

I still periodically have distracted men days...for me often it's related to my monthly cycle and/or a day when I just would really enjoy a man's companionship and touch...other day's I'm just HORNY! haha <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />

Sorry to have to tell ya this, chick, but I think you're human!


CJ

Glad I'm not the only one. But these guys are from 18 (dark skin, piercing green eyes) to 66 (cute dimples). Gosh I hope that these feelings will settle down a little. (Believer now going out to chat with neighbors) <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Believer,

20 months is a long time. Be happy you still got it!

It almost sounds like you are ready to move on (at least your body is). You have hung in there and gone through a lot and gotten nothing but sporatic false hope. You deserve to go out find someone nice and "live" you life to the fullest. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Make yourself happy!

Cathy

Hahahahaha...believer this means you are reaaaadddyyy to move on without WH!!

I was horny this whole year since plan B started. This is the only hardest part of me to control.

At one point i had to decide sleep with WH who cheated on you or OM whom you dont know about and might make you feel used. For 3 months after the last encounter with WH i have had NONE!! And it is getting hard...

I have come to a decision never ever will i have sex with WH...NEVER. I am proceeding with D without stopping now and closing the door on WH. I am not going back to him after D even if he wanted to.

Wow zizz.I am proud of you.You've come a long way.

Lady B,

I hear ya,it's been since last March for me but I still wear my wedding band and avert my eyes when men walk past.I am so not ready for anything else yet.I have so many mixed emotions it's just awful.I feel like I can never trust another man again yet I feel SO tired of everything that I wish someone would carry the load a while for me.

No,I still love my WH very much despite everything(weird huh) that I think I have to wait for that love to die before I can "move on". I have no idea if and when that will happen,which is what I am afraid of. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" />

O

Hey Believer! Having a good day, I see!!!

I took off my wedding ring on Sunday. That was so weird! Fogman hasn't had his on since April. He still tries to jump my bones on the weekends he's here, but I have finally managed to start saying no, or make it a point to sleep with him no matter what even if we didn't sleep that night!

I haven't felt the urge yet, but there are guys aplenty aren't there??? Cute butts are my downfall. Must start going to bike shops, I guess, when I'm ready to start looking.

I've been checking out guys really just as a preliminary exercise. I haven't looked at or slept with another man since I was 17 years old!

I've been checking men's hands for a ring. Not that I would do anything right now...just checking the field. Definitely some hotties out there!

Well, went out and checked the men in the neighborhood. And yep, they were looking good. I really think it has something to do with being over my WH. I put up with his living with OW for too long. Finally I accepted it and decided to move on.

But I was not expecting this sudden "interest" in men. But dang, they are all looking pretty good today. There is just something very pleasant (and different) about a man. Like PureBob would say - SIGH..........

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Girl, the same thing happened to me. Suddenly, there were men everywhere...and I had seriously never noticed that before. I mean, MEN, not men, like my brother or my Dad or my Grandpa, but hunka hunka burnin love men...young, old, all races, I was more in tune with all this testosterone floating around the atmosphere in my proximity than I had been when I was 16.

I started to wonder, what the hell was the matter with me!

Don't even get me started on the Masturbation thread...

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Anyway...hang in there. And whatever you do, DO NOT WATCH FOOTBALL!!! They look so good in those pants! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Dear Believer.
Just be careful during this discovery of your re-newed sexuality that you steer clear of MM!

In the future, we don't want to have to be giving you counsel and advice on that mistake!~lol~
Love, Julie <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Julie - No worry there. I have never entertained thoughts of married men and never will.

SerendipiT - Yeah, you got it, just a flood of men, manly men, muscled men, deep voiced men, with nice chests, arms, legs, smiley eyes, dimples, beards. They are black, white, hispanic, asian, young, old. Just good old hopeless men. My heart aches for one.

Believer, besides missing a man's touch on your body and the ecstacy of having someone WANT to make love with you, I think you are missing being married and having a man around all the time...Could that be?

I read this in a novel just tonight.
"A meal prepared, an errand performed; sounds and sights to be shared: tiny daily details of time passed by two people together, accumulating in a common memory which each day, by imperceptible stages, becomes more weighty and gives off more of its dull but steady warmth...I remember something of this in my own marriage.

The craving for it is almost as deep as as any other."

It is from a book about a single lady that has a love affair with a married man! It tells her feelings...actually it is pretty good.
It's an old book from the library, written in 1966.
Love, Julie <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />
P.S. I am coming back to edit this message because I just finished the book and AARRGGHH! The book ended with them still having the affair..I thought he was going to do the right thing and end it! Their final words to one another were "The thought of saying good-bye is horrifying to me." DON'T Read the book...I will delete the title!

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I'm so glad I'm not the only one! My H left 2 months ago and even before that he wan't intersted in sex for a while. Of course...now I know why!
I've started noticing men everywhere!!!!!! I think I'm getting to an age where my hormones are going crazy!!! I wanted it more than my H...like I said before..now I know why I wasn't getting it...he was getting it elsewhere!!! Uggghhh!

I went to my son's practice tonight and I just noticed every single guy that walked by. Some of them noticed me too. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> That was kinda nice.
I just don't know how to do that whole dating thing. I'm hoping my H will wake up soon but if he doesn't and we get DV...I guess I'll have to learn how to date all over again. YIKES!!!!
Am I the only one that is terrifed about dating again??????

believer -

I haven't posted in FOREVER (been reading, however), but I couldn't let this one slide.

YOU GO GIRL.

I've had this sexual being awakened in me since probably March or April. It's crazy. My life is completely topsy turvy, and my emotions are all over the place, but I feel like a teenage boy. I masturbate all the time. Did I just say that????

Work it.

<img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Ditto for me.

And I have still been having sex with my WH every so often.

Like last night.


A few months back I remember him saying the famous fog-line,

"... we are just really good friends and we have sex. But there is no emotional attachment, its just like masurbating..."

And heres the irony...


I know exactly what he means now.

Now I know what it is to have sex without feeling a damn thing.

Yikes - We are the women running with the wolves. I swear I have been a good woman, a married woman, a mom of my children, and a good mom.

However, suddenly, I notice men. My husband has been living with OW for over a year. But I am noticing men. I notice their muscles, their strangeness, how different they are.

I will never understand them. But they are perfect for us women. They are hard to comprehend, but still perfect in their maleness.

Yikes, I have to go to bed, and think of them, dream of them.