WH usually puts money in the bank every month to pay his bills which I see to it that they get paid.The bills consist of my car payment and his credit cards. He did not put any into the bank this month and I don't feel like I should have to pay them when I pay everything else.If he waste his money why should I have to take up his slack? Is this LBing or the correct way to think?

Shopsalone.....I don't think it's an LB. When my WW decided to get a "part-time apartment", I brought up a separation agreement. That was met with shutdown of conversation. Something I learned later was "reality" hitting her.

That passed and after the second attempt, she leased her apartment. I approached WW with the fact that "I'm not paying for anything to do with the apartment". Things mellowed over the next couple days and then I told her we had to discuss finances.

This was rough on WW as she once again was hit with reality. I continued through and we POJA'd every bill that comes in. I let her pick the ones that she was paying for, I picked mine and the remaining ones we worked together on.

I'm not in Plan B, yet. I'm still in Plan A and I think the financial side (at least in my case) was/is more of a boundary. I said what I said about not paying for the apartment and I wasn't going to waiver and give the impression that I'll go whichever the wind blows that day. It's worked for me.

Money notwithstanding, I think the biggest aspect received was that we POJA'd it and we are both sticking with it. Hope this helps......LS

Nope not an LB. You should not be funding the A. You need to sit down and calming and rationally discuss the finances and what he will be expected to pay. This is part of setting boundaries and not letting the WS walk all over you.