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I have been away for a few months because I just couldn't spend more time than absolutely necessary dealing with the affair. I am burnt out and it is so hard to read of others' pain and try to deal with my own.

WH has been home, but still seeing OW. OW has been calling our home constantly, yelling names at me over the phone, and parks in front of our house until WH and I come home. WH doesn't think he can control her behavior. I can't block her phone number because it is a cell phone. I may end up changing the phone number. I have threatened to get a restraining order.

Despite all the problems, I felt things were getting better between us. WH wanted to move three hours away at the beginning of next year and I thought it was a good choice for both of us. He wouldn't go NC but did tell me a few days ago that he hadn't seen her in a while.

On Monday night he left me a message that he was going to OW's house. I was devastated. Then yesterday was the anniversary of D-day. I told WH that I needed to talk with him about our situation. He ended up going back to OW's for the evening and called me from her house to say he was there. He came home at 1:30am and told me he is moving out at the end of the month to his own apartment. I told hime that if he stays until the end of the month then we need an agreement on his NC with OW. He is telling me that he is in love with her and our marriage is over.

I am so hurt again. I guess this is my opportunity to go back to plan B, but I don't want to be without him. I just want this affair to end so we can have our lives back. It has been a year now and I thought that once I reached this date that I would know what to do. But I still don't. I don't have any more answers than any other time in his whole ordeal. I thought that the affair would be over by now. If any marriage had hopes for recovery, I thought it was ours. I am an emotional wreck at this turn of events.

This is all I can write for now. I am feeling too overwhelmed so I'll continue later.

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Hi firefly.....sorry to hear what has happened. I know how you feel, 2 yrs into recovery my WH did and said the same thing, im in love with her and im moving out.

All you can do now is Plan B, thats what i am doing. I am just sitting back and hoping this will all explode in his face.

What goes around comes around, remember that.

Just plan b, no contact with him. It does work, for sure at least for yourself and your sanity.

Plan B was broken yesterday by WH, and i was doing so good, was starting to feel reaaly good, and now i am a wreck again.

Take Care
A/C0810


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