WW seems to be making plans to move to plan b. She has no idea of plan a or b as she does not know about this site or the book.

She seems to be making plans to move out. I am trying to re-establish plan A and move on with plan a unitl something changes.

I know plan b will push her into reality but i think it will also push her into a different comfort zone.

I think i wanted plan B because it removed the virus but now that it may be a reality i want to contiue with plan A.

The A is continuing and it hurts when its done in our home. maybe plan b is better....at this point i dont know.

seek legal counsel today to establish rights on limiting/eradicating the children's exposure to OM...

continue plan A....

ARK

ark

that has been done yesterday.

Ark...thanks for all of your help and kind words. I have been really trying to apply your advice. I value your thoughts and look forward to your posts and replys

the hardest thing for me is the happy...up..up...up....upbeat attitude and smiles. I know this important.

I disagree. WW cannot move to Plan B. Plan B is only for the BS. Reread "Surviving an Affair". Plan B is for YOU. If WW does move out, then you put Plan B into action to protect YOU. WW has no idea what needs you have been meeting, so the only way for them to realize it is for you to not provide them at all. Best case, A blows up and WW wants to try, worst case, WW does not come back, BUT you fall OUT OF LOVE with WW. So you are protected.

justa...
I know I have ridden you hard..

I know that the pain and the in your face type of actions of your wife's are dreadful and hurt you to the core....
and i would never deny you those feelings or disregard them...

but channeling even that bad energy in to a plan that keeps you even keeled and grounded will serve you better than the knee jerk reactions...

with the added stress of both of your losses...I think your wife runs not from you persay...but from the pain and all that has happened...

and I can not express how much I feel for you and her in that loss...

that's why I am so adamant about you finding and sticking to your plan a...

you can heal your wife...as she can heal you...
she runs from her own pain...but she is the cliche as I have stated often..where-ever she goes..there she is...

be kind
be supportive.
smile at her
when she's her most vicious look her in the eye and tell her softly that you wish you could take away her pain...

reach out whether she receives or not...

there are no garuntees...
and you can't make her do a thing...
BUT where ever this ends justa..
if and when you can breathe that deep breath and know you did all you could...

you will be OK
infact you will be great....
and that's a good thing.... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Blessings and God's Grace to you justa...
seek serenity
pray often

ARK

Ark

Thanks
...
again..

I print out your posts for insperation....

Thank you