I didnt want to file for seperation or divorce. Just wanted to file custody/support. But in my state, it goes hand in hand. My attorney did say that I didnt have to follow up on divorce after cooling off period, but I had to file to get custody issue going.

I have been wavering on what to do. I felt that if I did file, H would hate me. That there would never be a chance for reconciliation. I almost felt like I was being unreasonable, well he almost convinced me I was <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />

I spoke with son's principal. She told me that I needed to look at the big picture. He is living with another woman and wants to take my son 50/50 custody. With OW(not worthy of being called g/f as I had previously done).
He chose her. He chose to move her into our home. I need to protect my son and myself. His principal went on to say that he will be angry. Very angry. But isnt he already angry? Doesnt he already blame me for everything that has gone wrong in the world? She also said, if I dont file then I run the risk of him taking son for the week without having anything to say about it.

So here I go.
Wish me luck.

Good luck cookies. That takes alot of guts. The bottom line is that you have to protect your self and your children. I think you are doing the right thing. As early as next week, I may be filing for sep. to keep my WW from taking our D out of state to there the OM is. Take care.

Jmash

Sorry....

custody issues
separation issues

it all completely sucks

Pep

Should I tell him after I file?
Im worried thinking he will freak out more if it is a total surprise.
On the other hand, is there anything he can do or file to mess iwth my filing?