I am trying to understand in side myself what happened to 23 happy years. He became unhappy this last year when he turned 53, lost his job and had to go back to a career he hates. I am the one paying the price, as he picks up with someone else and I am the one having to deal with the questions because he says its not about me, its about him. I feel like filling for divorce and telling him to get lost, but everyone tells me it won't last with the two of them because it all started with shame and deceit. She was his employee in a Christian thrifts store and the rest of the staff were so upset that she was fired. No one would work with her. How could I ever trust this lying cheating man again. This is the second affair he has had, and its always not about me, its about him. I am tired of him and I am thinking about just letting him have his party and moving on. The problem is