I just want to ask the women of this board (ow,mw,bw) if Child Support was not demanded by law in USA would you be more careful with your birth control choices and the men you have sex with, knowing in the end you could ultimately be solely responsible for that life? I personally don't by an accidental pregnancy from women, I believe that women either just leave it up to chance (no BC or don't use it correctly on purpose, like skipping a pill etc) and hope for the best in the end or they want the baby but know that the man wouldn't have the baby unless forced. I don't believe that a man should be obligated to a child he never wanted in the first place, even if he did not use birth control himself. Nor should a woman be obligated to a child she didn't want either and women ultimately have the final say on what happens once she gets pregnant. I'm all for adoption, abortion (but not as a BC choice) and this is not about where the COUPLE (M or not) agreed together, planned, wanted the baby together.
I personally am fighting the urge to have another baby "accidentally" but I know that my family is not ready for that yet. I want another baby so badly, I'm 33 and time is running out but I don't want to put the extra weight of a new baby on an entire family that isn't ready for it, just to satisfy my own wants. Since coming off the pill a few months ago I have to force myself every time I have sex to use 2 (more during the week of ovulation) forms of protection and it sucks big time since we have a very active sex life! But thats what responsible women do, right? I'm trying to do whats right by my unborn, not even conceived, baby and give it the best possible circumstances I can provide to come into this world with. Not the dark desperate act of an OW trying to get the MM during an A or the act of a hurt BW trying to fix the marriage damaged due to infidelity. (this is not directed at anyone here)
It makes me wonder am I the only woman who has these feelings and can openly admit it? If there were no CS laws, would women be more responsible for their birth control?
