Juke,

Your first post on this thread brought tears to my eyes. I don't know exactly what was going on inside you when you read her note, but I felt your pain.

My situation isn't quite like yours because I was the one who finally gave up and filed for D, not my WH. I doubt he ever would have.

But he's made statements as recently as a few days ago...things like "You never know what the future holds".

I let them eat at me. What does he mean? Just like what did your XW mean?

I may be wrong. I think they really aren't sure they're doing the right thing. In fact, they probably are pretty sure they're doing the wrong thing. Why can't they quit? Fog? Addiction? I don't know. I may be totally off base, but I do think that maybe they want to keep us hanging on, hoping, just in case this current relationship with the OP burns itself out.

Your wife is very young. Maybe it's immaturity. My WH is almost 40. I blame his on early MLC, but our therapist said to me (after WH quit going), that WH seems to be narcissistic and emotionally "stunted". So maybe that makes him 23 emotionally, too?

At any rate, hugs to you {{{juke}}}}}. From the posts I've read of yours, you seem like a really caring, committed guy. You deserve someone equally committed.

LL